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  • I am in my final days and I am terrified, I have tried to come to peace with it but I am scared

    lanebambi updated 3 years, 3 months ago 1 Member · 40 Replies
  • Piper_Dear

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    I am so sorry. I hope that you find peace during this time. I have spent a great deal of time fixated on death, but subs like this one and r/pastlives have really helped me realize that our time here is just a brief moment in our souls journey. I know that our human instinct is to miss our earthly joys and our loved ones. But you will see your loved ones again.

    I will pray for you and I truly hope that you do find the calm that you need.


  • LeahInAus

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. I don’t know what to say. Maybe you could list all the great things you’ve accomplished, learnt, experienced, loved, been excited by, been proud of, etc. This will give you so much gratification and show you that your time on earth has been meaningful.
    What make you scared? How do you think you can logically overcome these feelings? Would you like me to find some YouTube clips that may be worth watching about the transition?
    You are not alone and you won’t be alone when it’s time. Please understand that. You’ll be greeted by warmth and youll have no fears when it’s time … they will simply disappear. For now, focus on rest, breathing and meditation. These will help for a calm mind.
    Much love to you.

  • xxme69

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Sorry to hear that. I can’t begin to imagine what your going through.

    Try to understand that there is a reason you are leaving, you’ve accomplished all that needed to be done in this life. Death is not the end, it’s the transition into something greater.

    I can try my best to come up with analogy, but as I’m not in your situation I don’t know if it will help or not, but I pray that it does, no matter how small.

    Life is a river, your a fish, you cannot swim against the current, so you go with it. This is the experience of life. But then you see a drop off, it’s a waterfall. It’s terrifying, because it seems like the end of the river, and the river is all you know. You get to the edge, and you start falling. It’s scary, because you’ve never experienced falling. (I imagine this is what the days before death is like) But then the falling stops, and you are still here. Except you aren’t in a river anymore. Your in a lake!!! Now you realize that you when you were in the river, you didn’t decide which direction you swam, the river decided that for you. But now your in a lake, so you can swim in any direction you want. And it feels glorious. It’s a sense of freedom that didn’t exist until after the transition.

    God/Universe loves you. Because without you, God wouldn’t be God. The human life is full of love, but we easily forget that. This life is also full of hate. God is in everyone, but we forget that too. But God loves you so much that it wants to take you from here and put you somewhere where there is only love and there is only happiness, somewhere where you and God can always be together, so that you can exist without the burdens that come with being human. You will be free!!! God’s attention is on you, you are closer to God than you’ve ever been, embrace.

    That is what I have to say, and it’s not bullshit in order to ease your fear, it’s the truth. You are god in a human body, fear is only a human trait. But you are infinitely greater than that.

    God loves you, I love you????☄️????

    Edit: I have something else very important to say, today marks the one year anniversary since my best friend Jonny died at 17. He’s the reason I am who I am today. I didn’t think about it until I finished typing my reply, and I broke down in tears of joy when I realized what today was. This was meant to be, and it proves that God really does love us, I’m feeling the Love right now, it’s overwhelming. You will feel it too, I LOVE YOU!!!!

  • popestone

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    I love that Ram Dass simply says “dying is absolutely safe.” He shares it as a message from Emmanuel, but no matter the source, I love the truth in it. You are not alone. Millions have safely passed through death before you.

  • Dutch-CatLady

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    It’s okay, this is what you know, ofcourse you are a bit afraid of what is next, because we don’t 100% know.

    All I remember from my near death experience is how peaceful it felt. And being pissed that I had to go back

  • willowwing

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    I think this is the ultimate fear, a fear bred into the body your soul animates to motivate you to survive. When the moment of your passing comes, that is what it will be—a passing, as simple as walking from one room into another. All suffering and fear will cease as you are welcomed back to your natural state of being. Having had many psychic and “mediumship experiences,” my personal belief that we are all eternal spirits runs deep. Ever since I was a tiny child, I’ve sometimes cried to go home even when I was supposedly there. 🙂 I feel that in dying, you are going home. May the angels surrounding you let you know they are with you, and lighten your burden of fear, and may you be able to let go of fear enough to know that love is always there.

  • cunmaui808

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Prayers, love and support to you.

    I recently went through the big D (and I don’t mean Dallas ) for approx 10-15 minutes and my experience was (to me) painless and easy.

    And now, because of the medical cause (heart attack), one could say I too may be “near the end” from this point on. This month, year, the next five, etc….let’s just say that the odds are not in my favor at this point.

    There is nothing to be afraid of. Love and live like hell until it happens and you move on.

    While anticipating the separation from those we love here on earth can be acutely painful before death, actual death is – a piece of cake, as easy as rolling off a log!

    Focus on living your purpose, whatever that may be, while you’re “here” and Godspeed you when you cross, because a new purpose and a new life will be awaiting you there.

    Healing, peace and everlasting love to you. There’s truly nothing to fear, but that’s almost impossible to believe if you haven’t experienced death.

  • Ornathesword

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Wjem my grandma was on her death bed I had a dream that I was with her and she was very excited to show me something. We were on a grassy cliff and I wanlked to the end where there was a guardrail with her. Down in the valley was the weirdest looking las vegas ever. There was a thick fog settled low over the whole scene, but I could see the flashing spotlights and lit up casinos. There was an immitation statue of liberty that kept rising and going back down in a fantastic spectacle. My grandma was so excited to show me this. But she also made it clear I was only allowed to look from the overlook spot where we were.

    I had forgotten that when my grams was younger and her second husband was alive they would travel everywhere. Las Vegas, where I’ve never been, was one of their favorite vacation spots.

    You’re heaven will be whatever your amazing is.

  • joshua_3

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    I got a lot help for my questions about death reading Eckhart Tolle’s book Stillness speaks ch. 9 Death and the eternal. I’ll copy paste the whole chapter here. Maybe you’ll get some help from this:

    When you walk though a forest that has not been tamed and interfered with by man, you will see not only abundant life around you, but you will also encounter fallen trees and decaying trunks, rotting leaves and decomposing matter at every step. Wherever you look, you will find death as well as life. Upon closer scrutiny, however, you will discover that the decomposing tree trunk and rotting leaves not only give birth to new life, but are full of life themselves. Microorganisms are at work. Molecules are rearranging themselves. So death isn’t to be found anywhere. There is only the meta morphosis of life forms. What can you learn from this? Death is not the opposite of life. Life has no opposite. The opposite of death is birth. Life is eternal.

    Sages and poets throughout the ages have recognized the dreamlike quality of human existence–seemingly so solid and real and yet so fleeting that it could dissolve at any moment. At the hour of your death, the story of your life may, indeed, appear to you like a dream that is coming to an end. Yet even in a dream there must be an essence that is real. There must be a consciousness in which the dream happens; otherwise, it would not be. That consciousness–does the body create it or does consciousness create the dream of body, the dream of somebody? Why have most of those who went through a near-death experience lost their fear of death? Reflect upon this.

    Of course you know you are going to die, but that remains a mere mental concept until you meet death “in person” for the first time: through a serious illness or an accident that happens to you or someone close to you, or through the passing away of a loved one, death enters your life as the awareness of your own mortality. Most people turn away from it in fear, but if you do not flinch and face the fact that your body is fleeting and could dissolve at any moment, there is some degree of disidentification, however slight, from your own physical and psychological form, the “me.” When you see and accept the impermanent nature of all life forms, a strange sense of peace comes upon you. Through facing death, your consciousness is freed to some extent from identification with form. This is why in some Buddhist traditions, the monks regularly visit the morgue to sit and meditate among the dead bodies. There is still a widespread denial of death in Western cultures. Even old people try not to speak or think about it, and dead bodies are hidden away. A culture that denies death inevitably becomes shallow and superficial, concerned only with the external form of things. When death is denied, life loses its depth. The possibility of knowing who we are beyond name and form, the dimension of the transcendent, disappears from our lives because death is the opening into that dimension.

    People tend to be uncomfortable with endings, because every ending is a little death. That’s why in many languages, the word for “good-bye” means “see you again.” Whenever an experience comes to an end–a gathering of friends, a vacation, your children leaving home–you die a little death. A “form” that appeared in your consciousness as that experience dissolves. Often this leaves behind a feeling of emptiness that most people try hard not to feel, not to face. If you can learn to accept and even welcome the endings in your life, you may find that the feeling of emptiness that initially felt uncomfortable turns into a sense of inner spaciousness that is deeply peaceful. By learning to die daily in this way, you open yourself to Life.


  • KentLooking

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Need to realize that your physical life may be ending but your spiritual life is continue on. The fear you are feeling is of the physical. You are trying to hold onto the physical. That is why you are scared and terrified because you will no longer be in the physical world. But know once you are in spiritual you are free and not bound by the physical. You will find peace. But until then, how do you cope? First by getting everything set up. Have a will made if not already as to who gets what when you do leave the physical world. This will set things out so you don’t have to worry about what is going to happen with your stuff when you leave. This in turn will take a burden off of you as you get things in place. As knowing that the physical is in place and you don’t have to worry about what is going to happen because you already set things up. This is a big burden for most people because they don’t have things set up before they leave physically. Like “I am not ready” or “I have to do this “ That’s why they fear what is going to happen because they are not set up to go yet. So this is a big step in getting things out of the way and you will find that a burden been lifted and the fear will go away.

  • hunglilsnapper

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Can you elaborate on what you’re scared of?


    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Why are you leaving? What is the cause?

  • TheCantervilleGhost

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    May God grant you peace in this time of transition. I’m not sure about your particular beliefs, but if you do believe in an afterlife, you can always look forward to your loves ones who have passed on waiting to escort you to the other side. I know that you are in a place that none of us can truly understand, and I wish I had words to bring you comfort. Say everything you need and want to say to those around you. If you know someone who has experience with passing people over, contact them. My mother does this and has been an endless source of comfort for all my relatives who have passed to the other side. Surround yourself with people who love you and ask for comfort when you need it. You have time to plan the situation in which you pass, which is a great thing. God bless you now and in your transition to spirit.

  • melissarose007

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    Hey. Im scared too. I dont have much advice. The other poster’s fish story helped me. Idk. Im scared. As far as i know i should have plenty of time left (32f) but we all know that may not be the case. Im scared of my last days i think more than i am scared of my actual death. And i am very scared of that.

    If you want to chat… let me know. You are not alone. And i would be happy to talk about your fears if it would help you in any way at all.

  • Tonyjay54

    February 4, 2021 at 6:31 pm

    I am so sorry and I wish you all the strength in the world. I lost my Mum and Dad in the 80s and I met a medioum who came to give me a message from my Dad. I have cut and pasted the story of what happened from a Facebook group to which I am a member. I hope that it gives you hope as much as it does me

    Whilst not a ghost story, this has the spirit of my Father involved
    I used to be a London Metropolitan Police Officer on armed protection duties. My Father had died of lung cancer and I had been granted compassionate leave to help Mum with everything that needed to be done. After about a month from Dad’s death, I was back at work and standing outside an Embassy in Portland Place in central London. This Embassy was just north of the BBC HQ.
    I was approached by a little old lady, long overcoat, woolly hat and shopping trolly, I am sure that you can picture her in your minds eye.

    She came and said … Is your name Roger ?
    Some backstory here, my family nickname is Roger, goes back to my childhood , it’s a long story !. I said, Sorry but do I know you ?
    She replied in a very strong Cockney accent ( think Dick Van Dyke )
    You are going to think me bloody mad mad, but I am a medium, have been all my life and I have a message for you from your Dad! Your Dad’s name was Ron and he came to me whilst I was shopping in C and A’s ( big department store nearby) and he told me to come a speak to the Copper standing near the BBC.
    I was speechless , but she continued … you Dad was a big man, built like a wrestler with curly hair and a hook nose, looks like Burt Lancaster ( that was my dad to a T ) .
    He asked me to tell you that he is OK, that he is out of pain and he is with his Mum and Dad and all his dogs.

    I was speechless but I managed to thank her and she told me that I mustn’t worry and we will all be reunited with our family one day.
    I thanked her profusely and paid for her taxi home . That was nice …

    Just another, back in the 90s , I was working at New Scotland Yard and there was a lady called Bernie working there who was a psychic. She once told me that I was always accompanied by a large Black and Tan spirit dog. What Bernie didn’t know was that we had always had Rottweiller’s as family pets. I find this rather comforting and reassuring

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