Ignoring advice of the tarot?

[Jessica]

Hi, to make a long story short, I asked tarot for some advice on reaching out to an old friend. I needed this clarification since I very recently went through a long term relationship breakup.

For some context, I fell out of friendship with this person due to him developing some feelings for me, and me not feeling the same way for him in return. So I put a firm end to it. That was prior to me getting into my long term relationship.

I’ve recently just been thinking about talking to him once more, but only as a friend. So I asked my tarot (Original Rider Waite as it’s pretty brutal with me), and it more or less gave me the advice to leave it in the past and focus on myself.

I really want to take this advice, but I still feel inside me that I want to reach out to this person for no obvious reason. Should I make the decision to go against my tarot?

If anyone’s interested the cards I received are: Death, 9 Pentacles, Strength. I asked for clarification from the 9 of Pentacles and I received 9 of Wands. All of these equate to me to some level of independence or focus on the self. Death immediately popped out, which is pretty much a firm ‘no’ in my eyes. Not sure if anyone else could offer some insight on this spread?

Discussion

[NinthCandle]

The repeated nines in conjunction with the Death card tell me that the relationship reached its completion. It seems to be telling you to be strong and move on, as difficult as it is to accept. But that’s just my take.

[Skeletonsaint47]

I think you should listen to your deck. After you’re now out of your relationship, your old friend may be expecting something more. You don’t want to put him or yourself in that situation.

[MermaidTarot]

I believe when you ask the deck – you ask yourself, so maybe you should take your own advice, or suffer potential unnnessesary heartache instead? You’re not going against the cards, but your own advice.

I also believe that you might want to build trust between you and that part of you. And if the “silent you” advice is always ignored…how helpful would you be to yourself in the future?

The hardest thing for us is to let go, sometimes. But it also grows us in ways we can’t imagine.

[honorthecrones]

You are completely within your rights to ignore anything that Tarot tells you. We are creatures of free will and we have the right to self determine.

If you felt that the cards you pulled definitively told you that to contact this person would be a bad idea, why would you want to ignore that? Are you telling yourself a story that it could indeed be very different and that all the reasons told by your reading are really wrong? Because it sounds to me like you value what the cards told you but want to ignore it anyway.

One of the things that may be affecting your perspective is that by doing a reading on this topic, you opened up an emotional connection to this person. You are now rolling around in that energy. You are creating a link between you and this person, that at this point, only exists in your head.

You mention that you are in a long term relationship. Does your significant other know of your intention to connect with someone that had feelings for you? Are you able to have an honest conversation with your SO on this topic? If you cannot, that would speak volumes about your integrity and intention in this situation.

The Strength card is probably your best card here. Strength does not develop by not exercising it. It is not a thing unto itself that will magically appear and give you the strength to do what is right. You have to actually do it. You have to make the tough decision to not contact this person even though some emotional corner of your mind is saying go for it. If it were easy, it wouldn’t take strength.

Based on the cards you mentioned, I would not make contact.

[HeadbangingLostSoul]

The two 9s plus Death says to me you are both going through a transition and the answer is: “not *at this time*”. 9 means patience and waiting. 9 of Wands, you are resting and recuperating from stress. 9 of Pentacles, you are getting perspective on what has transpired. Strength means to hold your impulses in check for the time being. The message isn’t no, it’s wait.

It helps to see tarot not as an ultimate authority, but more of a wise guru on the hill who you come to for advice. I have several spirits I invoke for different purposes with tarot readings, they each give me a different perspective on what I’m asking. And they all have their own opinions. Indeed even their own agendas. It is best to take their advice into consideration but make up your own mind. If what they say resounds to you as obviously true, well there’s your answer. If you’re left wondering why they said what they said, then you need to keep your options open until more information reveals itself.

Keep in mind also interpretation and projection. Death, or say 10 of Swords, might seem like an obvious ‘no’, but they don’t necessarily mean that. Death means unseen forces, one thing ending and another beginning, change under the surface, unknown spirits at play. You see what you expect to see, but a clear mind often reveals a much deeper answer than what you originally thought. It is best to keep important draws and refer back to them down the track. They make more sense with time and hindsight.