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My mum died earlier this month. I have not had anything from her. Not seen her, not felt her, no visitation dream, nothing. I’m the only ‘gifted’ one in the family and know the signs and have seen spirits/ghosts but i’m no medium and i don’t understand. But my question for Mediums is: why do some people see their relatives and have some kind of contact and some never? i’d love to have contact with her as we had fallen out and tbh, i thought she would have come to see me by now?
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Why do some people have relatives visit them and some have nothing?
updated 10 months, 4 weeks ago
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I don’t know, I wonder the same thing sometimes. It just seems like everyone is on their own path for one reason or another.
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My grandmother was a vey accurate psychic. We had a pact that she would come back. She didn’t for years. I did see her once during a half assed NDE, and she sent me packing back. Haven’t heard from her since except for one time when I was grousing about her not coming around and she said that I needed to live my life, that she knows that I would swing too far over if they visited too much. I understood immediately what she meant and I have accepted that.
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My mom didn’t visit me for 20 years and almost never comes. I had one relative tho that I spoke with within 24 of hours of their passing. I think (my personal opinion) that some are nervous to come here and visit because of all the negative spirits here on earth. When my family does visit they say a few words and are gone.
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My mother was never there for me in life. As much as I’d like it to be so, how can I expect her to be there for me in death?
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I don’t know, my dad visited me, but I think it was part of a ploy by the higher power to get me to do stuff I don’t want to do.
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First, I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. It seems that most people who are fortunate enough to receive a visitation from someone who crossed over, don’t receive one until a year or two after they passed on. My father for instance didn’t visit me until about 2.5 years after his death. I would suggest being patient with her. Death is a lot to process and some souls just aren’t in a rush to return to the earthly sphere.
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My Dad was gifted and very spiritual. When he passed, we knew he was gone. He was suffering here and wanted to go. He made sure he tied up any loose ends and made sure we were okay. He went peacefully, and I don’t expect to hear from him.
Maybe she died peacefully and didn’t have any messages for you. She may have reconciled within herself concerning your relationship. Maybe she’s having trouble communicating. Sometimes, it takes a minute to figure out how to get the living souls’ attention. You’re also still in early stages of grief. Give it time, she may not be ready to talk just yet.
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It has to do with the emotions you are harboring. Work through them and she will come through. The less resistance you have about the connection the easier it is to get contact
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It’s a combo platter of things. They may visit but can’t be heard or seen. Their agreements with the family may end upon their death. Everyone moves on eventually, so this is likely to happen.
Families are group agreements between spirits, and agreements can be held until certain conditions are achieved. These conditions may be as simple as giving someone a body by having a child, getting a body from someone else, having some specific experience, or achieving some specific time. The last one has its own complexities.
Time is a body thing. Spirits don’t experience time unless they have a body. This means how long you live is one part your family agreement containing some of your goals and one part DNA, which is difficult to predict before you get here. It’s also problematic if you haven’t been here for a good bit of time.
Imagine seeing something in your last lifetime when you were too elderly to experience for yourself, so you make a goal of doing that next lifetime. Then, by the time you reincarnate, no one does that anymore and that experience isn’t available to you. Oops. Time to revise the agreements and goals.
So being in a loving relationship is not enough to ensure a visit from the departed. Being in a love-hate relationship isn’t either. She may already be reincarnated, which for human bodies means she, or he, may be very busy for the next two decades and just not remember you.
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I’m not the only gifted one in my family, however, I’m the only one who interacts with spirits in that way. My uncle passed away before I was born and was very close with my mom (his sister). I’ve seen him on and off since I was an infant. I last saw him and spoke to him when I was 10. He never visited my mom and it really bothered her.
Fast forward to my grandmother passing away (my mom and my uncles mom) and I’ve regularly had dreams where she’s visited me. It’s always about something important in my life. I wouldn’t have known I was pregnant with my first child if it wasn’t for her coming to visit me.
I think that they come to those who know how to mentally and emotionally handle it. And can be open minded and able to process them visiting in a healthy way. I’m the only grandchild that has these experiences and the only gifted one out of my first cousins, so I’m not sure how that plays into it? I guess it’s because I’m the most open minded maybe?
My grandma never visited my mom until recently. And it was right before I told my mom I was pregnant with our second child. we’re having a girl and naming her after my grandma. It was so comforting to my mom just to get a visit from her and meant a lot especially given the time.
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People get busy on the other side. My grandparents hardly ever come through. I can count on one hand how many times my grandmother has visited me.
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I was very close to my father before he died. Although other relatives stopped by to visit in meditation and dreams my dad didn’t. ( Besides seeing his face in flowers right after his death). My father was much more reserved. He passed in 2010. However, In the last months, I can hear him. Our interaction is playful as we play 20 questions.
Idk if it “the right timing”. My intuition tells me that loved ones stay away if we are not ready. I think 1 year or 10 years is not much different in spirit time.
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My mom used to visit my sister in her dreams a lot. She only came to me once I think. I also had a dream the other day that my deceased cousin walked into the house I was in, walked directly to my sister and hugged her. I told her about it and she said, “That’s so weird, I was thinking about him yesterday.” I was like, oh! He sends his love! They were really close.
I’m not sure why this happens to some and not others. Could be how open they are.
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A month is a little soon. Give it about a year or even a year and a half
