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😂 Yes !! Do you find Aries just as flighty in relationships?
updated 1 year, 9 months ago
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Especially Aries Venus!
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They do this then complain and it’s like my brother in Christ YOU only pick people who don’t act like they really like you
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The most cardinal of cardinals. The Zodiac’s agents of change and chaos.
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Yeah, and then as soon as you show you’re interested, they ghost and start talking to/chasing someone else. Once you realize this and back off again, they’re right back to “You up;)” at 2am.
Girrrrlllllllll chill, and tell me straight up what you want!
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As an Aries Sun and Venus- this is accurate but also if I even start to think they’re dissing me in the slightest way than forget it. They have to realize what’s chasing them before it’s too late or I’ll loose interest just as fast as it all started.
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This is sorta true. But I feel like most of us have interest in people that show interest in us in very subtle and mysterious ways. It really intrigues us. Then we are so awesome that you fall in love with us…. Or maybe that’s our extreme self-love speaking 😜
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Aries sun, aries rising, sad but it s true. I get easily bored, I need to be always on the run, so emotionally unavailable or hard to get guys were always my first and only choice. Many unhealthy relationships, where all ended up by me being hurt. These last 3 years I learned my lesson and try to choose what is good for me and not what excites me. Now when I get bored, everyone around me knows it, as I found a new way to entertain myself, by torturing them 🤣🤣
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Here is my perspective as an aries sun and venus here – also my chart ruler is my aries sun, and theyre both stationed in the 9th house, which is ruled by sag so…..I tend to go for partners that are emotionally unavailable (Im looking at you, aquarians…) and often I dont even truly *like* them but rather the fantasy of them that I’m projecting onto them. I idealize the shit out of them because of how I cant attain them, if that makes sense. I want them to want me so badly and it’s just suffering. For me it all stems from issues with self worth and insecurity. I have a fearful avoidant attachment style (leaning anxious in romantic relationships) and I just want to feel that I’m good enough. What better way than to ‘capture’ the heart of someone who is unavailable, by being their only exception? Except that’s not how it actually works and it’s super unhealthy. What’s funny though is that any time any of these unavailable guys have shown me that they are into me, I then usually have felt disgusted and turned off. It’s like I can only like someone when theyre hurting me and making me yearn for them, making me feel inadequate and chasing them..then once I get them, the fantasy is gone, my ego is no longer bleeding, and it’s so underwhelming. You get addicted to the neurochemicals of the highs/lows that come with an emotionally unavailable partner/push and pull dynamic. Real ‘love’ is supposed to be secure, stable, and safe, which can often feel underwhelming and boring for those of us ‘addicted’ to the conquest (aka need to prove our self worth to ourselves). I’ve landed in awful relationships and situationships due to these issues and now that I’m more self aware and have been doing the work, I would never chase after an emotionally unavailable partner again. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy of suffering and repeating the same toxic cycles. And the most ironic thing is that I always think Im so emotionally available bc Im such an open book and want to be in a committed relationship so badly, but the truth is being this way is the height of emotional unavailability!
Anyways, my main point is that people that pull this whole ‘chase you until you like them back’ dynamic (regardless of their sign) have personal issues with self worth, probably histories of interpersonal trauma, insecure attachment styles, etc…it’s not a trait we can’t change, it’s usually a wound (or several) and one we can and should heal if we ever want to be in a healthy relationship. This goes for people dealing with others like this (dont take it personally, they have issues they need to work on- its literally not you it’s them – and please step away if it’s causing you pain bc I’ve also been on the receiving end of it bc I like the same exact people that mirror my own issues lol) and for people who are inclined to be this way.
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They’re very forthcoming, and I love it. My Aries man relentlessly pursued me and didn’t give up even when I pushed him away because of my own fears. We’ve been together 4 years now!
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Lol this actually happened to me. I had a girl in high school who was Aries sun/moon and mercury. She wouldn’t take no for an answer and my timid Virgo ass with Pisces moon caved in and dated her. I actually really liked her and her initiative for taking charge. I have a Mars in Sagittarius so maybe that’s why we worked for a while.
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And when you do, they get bored 😂
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I’m my experience Aries just gets bored once they see that you’re just another steed and not actually a unicorn.
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Yes. Aries Hubs (with an Aries Venus) ventured into that arena until he figured out I like a lot of space. He moved me in 24 hours after our first date. Then a month in, he threw up the “ice wall”…a decade later, still together and He pouts (in his own way) if I don’t spend enough time with him/give him attention.
My Sag Self is too busy learning/chasing interesting things in my own thought world.
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I think that’s one of the things I really love about Aries. They can have a good tryst and then go on with regular business.
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Nah I don’t chase shit. 😂 but yes liking me is a red flag.
