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Advice for a funeral and Dealing with negative ppl
updated 3 weeks, 6 days ago
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Honestly, contact the funeral home and ask for a private moment with the deceased, say your goodbyes, and skip the funeral. You don’t need that drama. 25 years later, I wish I had made that choice for myself. Wished I had understood that I could give myself permission to forgo the whole ridiculous affair. I hope you can give yourself the right to choose NOT to be a part of something that won’t really serve you in the long run. Wishing you peace.
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Use some crystals. Black Obsidian and Black Tourmaline work really good for absorbing “negative” energy. Just make sure to clean them when you get them and once in a while when you use them. Good Luck!!
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what helps for me and can offer you, personally is shielding. visualizing protective shields in my mind’s eye with the intentions to protect me/bounce off the energy they push out! it usually softens and lessens the impact when i speak with my own family members i have difficulty with
just something in-between that separates you from feeling it directly
maybe see it roll off the surface before it even hits you or ricocheting away like putting up a shield
try not to take it too personally with what they say and don’t engage too much, it’s irresponsible of them to act that way but don’t put yourself at fault for their own decided actions and overthink it -
I would suggest before you go in to the funeral, ask your guardians to come in and fill up your aura with invisibility… If you feel you need protection, you can ask them to add a cocoon of protection around you… And then ask them to place a cocoon of outward facing mirrors around you.
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tldr: don’t go, work on your sovereignty and release attachments to what you think people think of you if you don’t go
OP, you may not appreciate this advice yet. However, it takes some effort to push through social expectations or your own attachments to being seen, or perceived as, acceptable by others through social interactions. Let me be clear first – your soul does not pick up on negativity from others. You feel things because you desire to experience that catalyst. There’s no evil that’s leeching into your beingness. It’s just you choosing to feel bad about some aspect of your experience in life. You see past ‘negative’ experiences as a pattern (your choices) and you label them in a way that absolves you of responsibility for having those experiences. Yup. Harsh, but true. Takes most sensitive people a long time to claim their emotional state as their own, and then start using a language within their own mind to express freedom in that experience (not freedom from pain or suffering, freedom from blaming others/outside events), and then start making behavioral changes to create a healthier and more balanced life for themselves. That’s where NOT attending this event (or any event), that you feel is not healthy or balancing for you, comes in. Is someone going to force you to go? No. Do you feel as if that is the case? Then you haven’t been honest with yourself (maybe others as well) about how you feel and haven’t claimed your personal sovereignty yet about your personal actions/behaviors. This process of not attending events in our life, not associating with people in our lives, not eating the same way, not doing the same job, not watching the same things in TV, not listening to the same people, etc., is the growth we all seek, yet rarely have the fortitude to enact. It’s the freedom to be ourselves. This isn’t about alienating ourselves, or isolating ourselves, or damning others for being themselves – it’s about claiming our own identity and resonating with activities that are healthy and balancing for us. Taking care for your own emotional wellbeing is what this is. So, to put it plainly. You don’t feel good about doing the activity? Then don’t. Just don’t expect others to appreciate your decision, and also don’t expect for it to be a comfortable process when you start changing in the eyes of others as you become an independent and wonderful person for yourself. I’m speaking to you as someone who has been going through this process for about five years now. Someone who understands what it means to feel deeply and have awkward and magical psychic experiences. As someone who comes from a highly technical background – a pilot, and as a combat veteran, I have gone through this process of growth and change by recognizing who and what was in my life that was not healthy or balancing for me. That was leaving three very high paying jobs, with massive amounts of authority and responsibility. It was leaving three close friendships where I did not feel respected or appreciated anymore, and moving to a far off location as I followed my intuition with my incredible spouse. All of this was necessary and difficult. However, the most difficult part was not the transition through changing the external circumstances and people, it was claiming my identity as a sensitive person (neuro-spicy, psychic, mediumistic, or however you want to describe that for yourself to others – it really doesn’t matter what labels you use and can be unhealthy if you attach too much with anyone in particular). I hope this helped and wasn’t just another set of comments that’s dismissible.
If you want a set of additional perspectives that are very challenging to resonate with, here’s two to chew on:
Everyone is doing the best with what it is they have.
Everything is as it should be. -
Say the Serenity Prayer and know you can only control yourself and your reaction’s. Be proud of who you are!
