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**TL;DR:** I currently have a neutral, harmless human spirit residing with me that doesn’t realize he’s dead. This is a first for me in my 38yrs of life- all spirits I’ve made personal contact with have known and acknowledged they were transformed into Spirit on *some* level
I would like to know the gentlest way to begin the process of having The Talk about being dead with him, please 🙂
**Context:** On Samhain, after setting appropriate protections, I held a dumb supper, inviting any positive or neutral spirit that needed assistance to come sit and eat with me. A businessman showed up, and quickly took up residence with me.
He is so deep in denial, he sees my home as a hotel, and I am part of the wait staff. He’s on a business trip, waiting for a call to go into the office. He asks me to change the linens every morning. I laugh, but it’s also incredibly sad
I know and trust two mediums IRL, and they’re both incredibly gifted at remote viewing (I am not so great at it). They’ve both independently confirmed this poor man died on a business trip and he thinks he’s still on it.
Both of my medium friends have suggested I just tell him he’s dead, and keep repeatedly telling him until he gets it. I know this method has worked for them in the past, and I trust their counsel.
But I am not quite a… blunt individual. As I have plenty of time and space to deal with this spirit (I generally have a low volume of spirits coming through, a few a week at most, until last year), I am not in a rush to pop this guy’s bubble and get him moving. I WILL do that, if it’s my only recourse, but I’d like to ease him into it, if possible?
So far my plan is to befriend him, get to know him on a personal level, build mutual rapport. *Then* have The Talk.
May I ask, from other experienced mediums, will that work? Or are my friends correct, and I should just rip off the bandaid?
This will be a time investment for me if I go through with my plan, so I thought I’d ask others before this continues on further.
I am grateful for your time, energy and wisdom, fellow mediums. Have a blessed day!
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Advice needed from other mediums about a spirit who doesn’t realize he’s dead
updated 2 years, 5 months ago
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He has encamped in your home and in your life. Tell him he is dead. It is the straightforward and honest thing to do.
You do not need to be rude, just kind.
“Sir. You are dead. This is not a hotel. This is my home. If you wish, I can help you to cross to the other side or lead you to a medium that can help”. Then do it.
Telling him, is the act of kindness. Allowing him to remain and to continue to exist by feeding off your energy is stopping his journey to healing, where he needs to be.
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Even though i have personally fought the stages of grief, i have come to learn how necessary and personal each stage is and that every person is meant to experience those stages on their time and each in their own unique way. This spirit is currently experiencing grief and i agree with you that he needs patience, kindness, and a softness that you as the medium understand better than some. Trust your instincts, take the steps that feel right to you. He is with You for a reason. Your soft touch can help guide him and help him to see. Every medium is different for a reason. Have faith in your instincts with this soul. I am sending you loads of love and light. 🌄 🌻
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I had that once at a guy I was dating. I smudged the whole place and talking to it and telling it it was dead. It was sad because it was a woman who had lost her baby, so she stayed I’m the baby’s room crying over the crib. For over a century. I told her her baby was safe, that she could go join her baby, that it wasn’t her fault the baby died. That she will be happier on the other side. Eventually she left. It was sad.
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I’m not a professional medium, I only trained for one year under one. Please take my two cents with a grain of salt. He found YOU because he knew you wouldn’t tell him anything he didn’t want to hear. Tell him and assist him on his way before he’s a hungry boi sucking all your energy
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Don’t form any bond and attachments. It’s not just for your benefit, but that of the spirit that’s stuck and confused. You do not want to give them a reason to stay anchored to this world.
Being kind is also being honest and direct. The sooner his willing to accept his situation and moves on, the sooner he may be with loved ones etc. -
If it was me, I would attempt to find out his name. Once you have that you can research obits. That way when you gently tell him he has died, you can show him his obituary as proof. If he died with some sort of head injury maybe that could be why he doesn’t remember? I think it must have been something sudden if he doesn’t remember. Maybe even something in his sleep. If he was murdered maybe he could tell you some information that you could discreetly pass on to relatives if they haven’t solved it. Good luck!
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I did the same thing. I so get it. It isn’t easy to tell someone they. Have passed. My guy said, “Oh. Okay”.
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Heh. Bold of you to allow him to create roots on your personal life. He can feed himself from your energy that way. Personally, I never allow them to become part of my life, starting by never inviting them to eat with me (absolutely not). I get that you have good intentions, but there are boundaries that need to be respected.
I’d just break the illusion and tell him. This illusion isn’t good for him. Death is just a transition and not a sad thing. He needs to realize he is no longer human and move on to a place beyond our space and time: back to the source. If he hasn’t done that yet, that means he’s blinding himself by fears and materialistic desires, which makes his energy not great, which impacts the quality of your energy for opening a door to him. You need your energy for your human experience.
One thing you can do is ask for the help of higher beings. They usually know how to best deal with them. My guide would probably shake his head at the moment that I invite them to eat with me.
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> they’re both incredibly gifted at remote viewing
what is remote viewing?
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How is it possible to speak with spirits and even see them? I’ve always been scared for things like that, but at the same time I’m curious to explore this part of my angst. Does anyone have tips?
