Ashes….peoples thoughts/opinions

[Nicolina]

Hi, I’d like to ask, what’s people’s opinions on keeping ashes i plan to keep my husbands i have them in my bedroom on his bedside table at the side of our bed I’ve read before people saying you shouldn’t keep them also they won’t settle etc??

Discussion

[stephyduh]

Your husband is more concerned with you having peace and acceptance with his passing, if it comforts you to keep his ashes close by then that is exactly what you should do. Many cultures have various traditions when it comes to death, ultimately the choice is yours and there is no need to worry about your loved ones after they have passed. The living need to be allowed to grieve in which ever way gives them peace, so trust your heart and do what feels right for you. 🌄 🌻

[Tenzky]

Yeah it doesnt matter for him much. His spirit will settle regardless of what you do with him.

But having those ashes around can be a good link for case you want to contact him.

[TwiddleDooDee]

Makes no difference at all. The body is a host for the soul, once departed the soul is elsewhere. Do whatever brings you comfort and peace and if that is his ashes by your bed then keep them there. So sorry for your loss.

[Lovelybrum]

My husband is not trapped in his urn I feel this I feel him around . I have his urn on our table and i do sit and talk to him there but i know he is not trapped in the box. I am not anywhere ready to put his box in the ground I’m not sure why but I think its because he desperately wanted to stay at home and pass here . I had to break my promise and he died in hospital but I felt him leave his body as he passed away and have seen him at home so I know he is not trapped anywhere he is free .

[AnAnonymousHelp]

I’m sorry for you loss.

It’s our intention and feelings that matter. Do whatever feels right to you.

One thing that has been a hindrance to spirits trying to find peace is the living relatives constantly lamenting their death. Some may even feel guilty for dying so early.

If you want to keep the ashes as a medium to send him good thoughts/prayers, that seems fine by me. If you want it to always remind you to lament his death, then that could be an issue. Do what feels right to you.