Can I help my loved one cross over?

[ladybug5551111]

Hi mediums! Warning – this is a long post so stay with me! I had some questions I was hoping you could help me with as I’m still learning about this subject. Reading about different dimensions and realms freaking fascinates me but I haven’t found much on it (please feel free to recommend any helpful books or websites.) I’ve read archangels and ascended masters are from one of the higher dimensions and vibrate from a higher frequency? But what about us after we die? We go to a higher dimension after we “cross over”? It’s not the same one as archangels and ascended masters is it? And what if a person chooses not to “cross over”? Where do they go?Is someone able to break this down for me and explain based on their experience with communicating with the deceased? I’m newer with my mediumship and mostly am claircognizant and an intuitive empath…I don’t know much about this as I’ve only channeled twice and it was on accident…just random downloads and it was more so messages for someone else from their loved ones, so this didn’t come up. Ironically, I haven’t even been able to “channel” my own loved ones. Mine visit on rare occasion in dreams or will check in with me via “angel signs” – mostly butterflies, and that’s all I’m able to get right now.

I ask because my grandpa suddenly passed about 3 years ago and while I have had an easier time connecting with his parents since they’ve passed, I’ve had a *really* hard time connecting with him. I saw a friend a few months ago who is a reiki practitioner and medium. Connecting with him was one of my goals with our session but sadly, still wasn’t able to get much even through her. I’ve seen her twice since he passed and most of what she picks up on is details from the day he died (probably from my energy and memory), not so much about what he’s up to now. I don’t think he’s someone that really comes in for me during sessions so it’s harder for my friend to pick up on him. He was also a skeptic about the paranormal when he was alive so maybe he’s not as open to stepping forward? Is that possible? She did say though, that he hasn’t fully “crossed over” yet. That he wants to stick around so he can keep an eye on me and my family, and that he’s happy where he is. And within this lies my main question…hence, the title of my post.

Honestly, I don’t know what “crossed over” even really means and I know that ultimately it’s his choice, but I want to encourage him to make that full transition into wherever we go next if he hasn’t already. During his life here, he struggled with alcoholism and made a lot of mistakes…despite this, he loved me and my family so much. I need him to know that it’s ok and I don’t think any of us hold his mistakes against him, as we all make mistakes during our lifetime. We love him all the same. I also don’t want him to feel bad for his passing being so sudden and traumatic. My intuition tells me he feels sorry he left us the way he did. But it’s ok!!! That’s just the way it was meant to be, I suppose. And I’m at peace with knowing that. I’ve been worried about his soul. I don’t want him to regret anything or feel bad for the choices he made here…I don’t want that to hold him back. I want him to go through life review, learn, grow, and be at peace. I want him to keep going with the journey that follows after physical death. Can’t he still look after us even after fully transitioning? So why stay inbetween? (Kinda sounds like he’s inbetween based on what my friend said. Whatever that is.) Again, I’m not sure about the logistics about dimensions and which ones we have access to when we die and the whole process…idk if “going into the light” is actually a thing…and again, I know the choice is ultimately his and he’s *always* been stubborn….but I just want what’s best for my loved one. I want him to focus on him and not worry about us. Is there a way I can help him with this? How can I encourage him to fully move into that next phase? Or am I overthinking all of this and wherever he’s at, he’s already doing whatever it is he needs to be doing and it’s fine?

Thanks in advance to whoever reads this and for your responses 🙂 This has really been bothering me since he passed and hasn’t really been something I’ve been able to answer on my own.

Discussion

[RicottaPuffs]

The majority of people cross at the time when they die. It would be rare if he were still here three years later. There is no reason to believe he has no crossed.

[blackhawkfan312]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopomp#:~:text=Psychopomps%20(from%20the%20Greek%20word,but%20simply%20to%20guide%20them.

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This is what I was taught that happens. You are summoned by messengers, angels, shamans, spirit. Kinda like crossing that lake back in greek mythology or whatever it was

[BigMoneyBig]

“he struggled with alcoholism and made a lot of mistakes” I’m a newbie who just pops in from time to time but could this be why he hasn’t “fully” crossed over? I know most people cross over when they die but there are plenty who don’t for whatever reason. I’ve heard of spirits who have not crossed over for looooong time. I’m sure they are the exception. Maybe his deep sense of regret is holding him back & keeps him tied to the family?