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Capricorn moons – please help me understand how best to support you emotionally.
updated 2 years, 7 months ago
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That’s considerate of you to ask! I hope a lot of people will give you actual advice.
I can only give you a warning: IF we open up and dare to be vulnerable with you, PLEASE let us retreat again after. It is a risky and exhausting thing for us and we want to feel safe after. And feeling safe is easier alone or with walls up.
Please don’t think of it as some gates that broke and now it’s time for a deeply emotional exchange. The worst is to hear “Oh I feel so connected to you right now.” or “Finally I can see the soft side of you”. Please don’t say that even if you think it.
We will come to you again if we find that we can risk being vulnerable with you.
Another thing, cap moons have a hard time processing their feelings in the moment. Everything will be evaluated after the fact.
So if a cap moon tells you that they are ok with something and a few days later they tell you that, actually, they are NOT (or vice versa) – this is not us being inconsistent, it’s just us needing time to properly find out how we are really feeling about something.
Best to let us know that you expect an emotional evaluation and then giving us time to answer (a deadline helps to actually receive an answer, though).
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Ugh- this is a serious issue my partner and I are having right now. *I am not sure if its just me or other Capricorn moons are like me*
I am SUCH a perfectionist and give 110% in all I do- I do not know if other Capricorn moons are like me- but I am internally very anxious that every thing needs to be done well and right. I sometimes get so overburdened. So what I feel I need is the following:
-I need words of encouragement/Affirmation to remind me that hey you have done well before you got this. You are amazing and awesome for all you do. But not to the point that is overbearing if that makes sense? It should be genuine
– Helping me if I am struggling but asking how can I help you?
– Just showing consistency really is my big thing. Conistency with communication, actions, I feel I need security?
Also IF I do choose to open up, let me talk, let me express myself, listen to me don’t give me an opinion but just listen. I just feel once I have security I am more willing to open up
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Sometimes Cap moons don’t even know what we’re feeling lol. On the outside, we seem perfectly fine, still performing at work, maintaining our am/pm skincare routines, and sipping bone broth for lunch. Cap moons have to be careful to make time to process emotions, and that’s almost always done alone and in silence. I’ve had well-intentioned friends suggest that I talk to someone professionally, but I frankly have nothing to say until I’ve figured out what’s poking at me. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just that I can’t. I don’t know why either lol.
If you want to pry, you better be slick about it lol. Usually, something in a Cap moon’s daily routine is slipping up, and once you know what it is, that’s an easier entry point to begin asking if we’re okay. Like, my skincare routine will continue to be on point, but if you see dozens of packages of new products in the middle of a season, then I’m probably not okay lol. But, you can only pry once I’m starting to “get better.” This will manifest differently for your specific Cap moon. I just happen to have very strong Taurus placements and always lean on Taurus-y things to get better.
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Delayed feelings is 100000000% true. Even If I find out someone dies it takes me a day or more to actually cry about it because my stupid cap moon has to take the emotions into the processing center first before they can be fully shown/felt.
As far as OPs question about dealing with our vulnerability. Theres certainly a lot of factors – if we’ve been hurt before then we’re much more locked up. I also personally just fear over-sharing and being vulnerable because I’m afraid of looking stupid. Cap moons hate messiness and want to be perceived as cool calm collected.
I also don’t think we need TONs of emotional support, so I’d be cautious about trying to give too much. We like doing things ourselves and hate asking for help/feeling like we need someone to help us. We prefer to figure shit out on our own. Only when the situation is very dire would we consider wanting help
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I am a Cancer Sun Capricorn moon Capricorn rising, and in my younger days I was fairly emotionally reserved, but now I’m very open loving and accepting of others, sometimes I am a bit suspicious of others intentions, not often at all though.
Not all Capricorn moons are the same, you really have to look at the whole chart.
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Be completely honest, even if it is going to hurt our feelings we prefer to face the truth and reality of things, make sure you are nice about it though (for me anyways) It takes time for us to open up sometimes don’t overthink it. If we make mean jokes don’t take them personally, it most likely isn’t really what we think/feel/see
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Capricorn moon here.
Leave me be. I will let you know how I feel if I feel like it. -
Yeah we don’t seem to deal with it v well
Prying feels like intrusion honestly, Especially in new situations. I immediately put my guard up cause I need to understand why someone wants me to be vulnerable and what that could mean for me down the road.
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From my Cap moon friends: “what emotions/vulnerability?”
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I just wanted to comment and say how much I appreciate the capricorn moons in my life. I’m a capricorn sun, but I have a special bond with a good number of cap moons. Whenever I talk to you all, I feel like I can understand myself better and offer you help and support. Thank you for being genuine and caring about the close people in your life!
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I have Capricorn in Moon, Venus and Mars with Sun Aquarius. Vulnerability is a scary thing to do and have .I take things seriously (sometimes more than I should ) but doesn’t mean I don’t have emotions . I’d say depends on how “ deep” I’m feeling it. Because I always think first “ is this the person that I really want ? Or it’s the energy or the idea of being with someone ? My Aquarius sun gives them that energy of being cold and heartless even if that’s not my intention . But the “me “ time is something I have to have whether I’m with someone or not . I also have this “ don’t call me -I’ll call you “ approach…
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“Is it wrong to pry?”. For me, that’s a big no-go! Maybe that’s easier for me because I’m quite open with sharing IF I want to share! The short version: When I’ve opened up and I talk about my feelings, it’s best to just show that you’re listening and support my right to feel however I want to feel. No further questions, ideally no advice, unless it’s practical solutions to get out of whatever made me go off on a rant!
The person who keeps getting this wrong also has a Cap Moon and is my sister in-law. She drives me crazy when she points out that I look upset or whatever and keeps prying.
Her Mars and Sun square her Moon and she has a lot of inner discomfort and keeps projecting her own stuff onto others. Used to irritate me, to put it mildly. Now I just feel so sorry for her and all of her emotional pain that’s manifesting into poor physical health. Of course she’s refusing help or advice from anyone. *Sigh!*.
In all fairness, her and I have always been good at discussing our vulnerabilities. She learnt early on to let me open up and I will [over]share. She cares more about looking tough and competent than I do. It’s an all-the-time thing with her. I only care about that if I distrust someone or am uncomfortable in a new situation.
She just can’t do support without trying to take control. I don’t know if it’s the difference in Lunar phase that makes her all-controlling, whereas I don’t try to control others and I expect others to respect my independence and right to make my own mistakes!
Her: Sun Cancer/Full Capricorn Moon at birth. Me: Cap Sun+New Moon or first crescent at birth.
My oldest son who has a Cap Moon too, is the most stereotypical Lunar Cap who never talks feelings, is okay or will figure it out on his own, even though I’ve always encouraged my sons to talk about their feelings. I understand hating to keep updating others about “how’s it going?”. But sometimes, it would be nice to be given the beginning and end of “how it’s going/went”.
Our youngest son who has a Virgo Moon and I, talk a lot about our feelings and we’re both like a piece of litmus paper; people can just see how we’re feeling.
My Taurus Moon mother in-law gets it right, she offers practical help and will listen – but you have to accept that she’s going to come with unsolicited practical suggestions for getting out of that feeling. Her daughter is the one who’s driving me nuts and she claims her mother is awful at emotional support – though not as awful as mine, lol!
