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Discussion

[bunnyrut]

I remember watching old videos of myself when I was little. I had no problem jumping in front of the camera and “performing”, one video was me acting as a reporter. And my mom watched with me and said how I changed so much when I started going to school and suddenly became shy and withdrew from people.

It doesn’t help when your older siblings also decide to help destroy your confidence. The “teasing” that they find so funny just breaks your spirit. Crying only makes them laugh at you more.

And they wonder why I didn’t want to bring children into this cruel world.

Imagine how different so many women today would be if we nurtured their confidence instead of working so hard to break it. But then they wouldn’t be quiet little servants like society wants.

[OtherwiseJello]

Before my son realized he was a boy (biologically female), he had a female friend in 2nd grade who bullied him horribly. This little girl would say things to him like, “You’re nothing. You’re worthless. You’re a bad person,” among other things.

When he tried to stand up for himself, she shoved him so hard he fell and hurt his tailbone.

No matter what we tried, that little girl wouldn’t stop with the abuse. We became alarmed when our kid started drawing pictures of himself all bloody with a knife.

After no luck with the principal, who basically told us to get used it, we pulled him out and began home schooling.

It took us at least six months to deprogram our kid from thinking he was bad and worthless to understanding that he’s worthy of love and that the little girl who did this to him was wrong, and probably has a horrible home life.

We’ve spent the last 5 years now building up his confidence, helping him understand that bullying isn’t a “me” problem but the bully’s problem, got him Tai Kwon Do and now have him in a home school program with other kids like him where he can flourish.

I vowed that I would never be the same kind of parent my mother was — overly critical, judgmental, slut-shaming. I am determined to be the end of that cycle.

[SheyIce-Veins]

I didn’t crush the confidence. My family did from a very young age.

[FruityMango2226]

School crushes kids. Kids are so creative and so smart, and rather than building on that and expanding it, the standardized school system sucks it out of them.

[SnooCookies487]

This is what gets me so mad when people talk about self esteem.

When you continuously feed negative feedback to a girl, as society does, how the hell is someone supposed to feel good about themselves? How is someone supposed to respect themselves?

I heard my entire life that I was fat, stupid and unattractive. People treated me horribly (racism, sexism). Then people had the nerve to shame me for having low self esteem, which made me feel worse.

I look back at pictures of myself and all I see is a black girl. Not the ugly, fat person people around me told me I was. My hair wasn’t strange or weird, just black girl hair. I wasn’t fat, I had a black body. I wasn’t stupid I had ADHD.

It makes me mad that I was hearing trash every day and then being gaslit because I didn’t ignore the messages I was hearing from my peers, family and society.

It disgusts me to no end when a man who was praised his entire life for doing the bare minimum talks about self esteem and bootstraps.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

[mochi_chan]

I envy the world where little girls had confidence. It was very early on that I learned that the only thing I was supposed to be is quiet and obedient and not do anything unless I was going to do it right by adults standards. It took me many years and a whole new country to have confidence.

May all the little girls never lose their confidence

[Waste_Sign_3992]

I never had confidence to start with 💀

[bliip666]

I had no confidence as a kid. I’ve only gained some as I’ve matured

[The_Living_Good]

Together we are so powerful 💖

[vestharnoom]

Soraya Chemaly wrote an awesome book called Rage Becomes Her

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[badhairdad1]

Thank you. I’m a dad and sometimes I forget my daughters’ confidence

[RemarkableMousse6950]

I’m a drama teacher and I feel like one of my jobs is to keep our girls open and spunky. There’s this shift between 11-13 when girls start to get quiet. That’s when I start making them the villains, when I put swords in their hands. What do we say to little girls? We say “you’re so pretty”. I think girls hear that so much, that’s what they think they’re valued at. I want my girls to be appreciated for more than “pretty”. I want them to get in touch with that part of themselves that’s ugly, that’s angry, because someday they’re going to have to stand in a room full of men and say something they don’t want to hear. This way they get to practice that with sociodramatic play and swords. My strong sisters, I salute you and thank you ❤️

[Article-Novel]

I remember being a vocal child that refused the idea of getting married as an adult. My classmates all insisted I would grow up to be a nun, because unwed women don’t exist in this world 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️