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Discussion
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Hello lovely people!
I own a business next to a church in downtown Smallburg, USA. My business is at street level and I live in the apartment above my business. My apartment has a \~30 foot balcony that has been proudly hosting a 3 foot banner that says “MY BODY MY CHOICE” with a 10 foot drop down that reads “Your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born, but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. That’s pro-birth, not pro-life.”
Yesterday my husband comes home from work and hands me a business card of the church next door with the name and number of a guy (let’s say Steve) who stopped him outside as he was coming in. Steve asked if my husband owned the building, and he said yes, me and my wife do. Steve asked about the banner, and my husband deferred to me, saying he fully supported my views but is less knowledgeable on the subject. Thus the handing of the business card, and a request from Steve for an open discourse with no animosity on his side, he just wants to understand.
Now, having had the night to think about it, I’m torn. On one hand, I think it’s great that he’s even willing to approach a conversation about an issue he probably feels very strongly about, as do I. I think education is our most powerful tool for softening hearts and changing minds, but I also just don’t understand the point of engaging in this conversation. We are both (probably) very strongly entrenched in our specific views, and I just don’t understand why he doesn’t just Google pro-choice arguments and do his own research rather than speaking to me, unless he thinks he can change my mind. I’m also not the spokesperson for abortion rights just because I have a uterus. I’ve never had an abortion. I’ve never had a child. I’ve never had a miscarriage. I feel wholly unqualified to speak about this (other than being a woman who could be effected), but I also feel compelled to because at least it’s engaging in a conversation about a very important issue.
Thoughts?
ETA: He doesn’t appear to be in any sort of position of power in the church (according to the church’s website), he just had a business card of theirs and wrote his info on it. 🙂
ETA2: He used a business card of the church that promotes the church on one side and their version of an AA meeting/worship hour. That recovery meeting was letting out at the time my husband came home, and this guy is involved with this program as a mentor, but has no official standing in the church. I gathered all of this through overhearing his conversations/watching him interact with people before and after the service. I think he has these business cards to hand out to people who might be interested in the recovery meeting, and jotted his name and number down for my husband to pass along.
Having now spoken with him on the phone he is **not** trying to say he is a representative from the church, that was simply what he had on him to write his number on.