How to find a good medium? Just had bad reading.

[Nicolina]

Just paid quite a lot of money for a medium and she only picked things up after I told her. She had good reviews so thought she may have been legit, feel so disheartened as I asked my mum to bring specific things up so if she was really there with the medium why did she not mention any of this? How do I find a good reputable medium? It was my first medium experience and has really disheartened me.

Discussion

[tammybyrd63]

Also, unfortunately not all people can be read. I had a few come to me for a reading and all I got was a brick wall. I dont pretend, I just refund their money

[tcm2303]

Hi! Sorry for the bad experience. As a medium, we can’t always guarantee who or what information comes through. Just like with finding a good dr or hairdresser or partner, it takes trial and error. We all don’t vibe on the same levels, and can’t always pick everything up. Good luck, and don’t give up your faith.

[Peevedbeaver]

In the future, try not to offer them too much excess info. If they ask “does that make sense to you?” Simply say yes, elaborate as much or as little as feels right and allow them to continue.

Elaborating is a double-edged sword. It can help them know whether they’re interpreting things correctly, but it also gives room for projection and for their own issues and experiences to muddy what they’re seeing.

Keep trying with others. I’d recommend meditating and getting yourself in a calm, clear, open headspace before going into a session. The more regulated you are, the easier you’ll be to read.

[spaceprincess135]

I think just like anyone else with any sort of gift and their work, mediumship isn’t 100% all the time. The guy I went to had great reviews but I think maybe the dynamic wasn’t right for me even though he was very kind. The reading didn’t resonate with me. The first time he told me he couldn’t get anything so we rescheduled. The second time, he tried but it just want right. It happens.

[RicottaPuffs]

Don’t give up, Queen Tatt. Sometimes, you have to find a medium you connect with before you can connect. To your loved one. The evidentiary that you seek may be different than what your person wants to show you. Hang in there.

It is less about legit, sometimes, and more about the medium, and you, being able to connect. Some people want such specific information that they unconsciously block the reading. Don’t worry. You will find one who is legitimate and who can work with you. I suggest spacing out readings. At least, a month in between attempts. I also like that the medium refunded the fees.

[soulinameatsuit]

I had the same experience the first time I met with a medium. I had told my daughter what I wanted to hear from her and none of it was conveyed. With time and a few mediumship classes, I learned most mediums don’t have a straightforward verbal conversation like we see on TV. Most communication is by symbols that the medium then attempts to interpret. With hindsight, I realized the medium got more right than I originally thought.

You can learn to connect with your mom directly. It takes time and it’s worth it. I recommend reading the book titled Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen.

If you choose to work through a medium, check out the Helping Parents Heal website. They have a list of vetted mediums.

[SilverswanPsychic]

Unfortunately many will keep working when they are low vibe. Under too much stress, unfortunate life situations. We can only read others/ cards etc.. when high vibes are there. To do this is bad for this readers reputation.

[Nicolette2882]

I have had many readings. Not all are good. Some things that were told to me seemed craxy at the time and a decade later have happened. I was told I would be married with three kids and I said no way. Im engaged and he has a son so I presume that is my 3rd kid. I was told that like 8 years ago and said no way Im ever having another kid. Doubted I would ever marry either. Dont give up. Keep looking.

[QueenOfTatts]

Thanks for all your replies guys, guess I’ll just keep trying.

[popcornunicorn12]

I’ve found these comments really insightful!
It’s been a long time since I’ve had a good reading.

I’ve been wondering for a while if there is an issue with me, when it comes to readings. And I think there is 🙁

Any suggestions any of you have to be a better sitter would be appreciated 🙂
And by any chance, does anyone have opinions on if white magic rituals impact readings?

I’m not a skeptic, I believe that there are people that have these gifts. Since I started getting readings, I have always answered questions the reader has asked me but would make sure not to volunteer extra information that might be used to do a cold reading. I had some really decent readings in my teens (there was only one reading I felt the reader was asking too many questions that felt like fishing for info to make educated guesses)

…however I feel after a particular event in my life, that all readings I’ve had are not right.

What happened:
I used to have some experiences. I’ve had two readers bring this up. These were very infrequent occasions, and felt it wasnt anything menacing and was fine with it.

But then had some experiences that really scared me. Even though I believed in the paranormal, I didn’t think what was happening to me was real.

I thought that I was developing a mental health disorder. I was getting to the point that I couldn’t dismiss as a one off event and was mentally preparing myself that I’ll need to see a doctor to get help.

An acquaintance of my mum at the time, got in touch randomly. This person knew me, but had no idea what I was going through. She said to my mum that a friend of hers said that there is someone she knew that needed her help, said she described me, and also gave some random information to this acquaintance, some of which she thought was incorrect (but it wasn’t).

I decided to meet this friend of my mums acquaintance that reached out as felt I had nothing to lose, she gave information she shouldn’t of know and I was struggling. She also didn’t want any money but I chose to give a donation.

She was into numerous things, and also discussed white wicca, and think all of her instructions to help were probably off that.
I was skeptical, but I gave it a shot and luckily never had an issue since. It’s now been over 10 years.

Ever since then, I’ve not experienced anything myself (good or bad). I think I’m no longer sensitive.
I think the instructions I followed (or my experience in general maybe) has stopped me getting an accurate reading and caused some sort of barrier?

Every reading since then it feels that the reader is making some stabs in the dark.

….None have ever said that they aren’t picking anything up. I think since I got rid of my issue/ followed the white wiccan’s instructions, that the readers I’ve seen dont feel at ease during the reading, feels like they are just asking a lot of questions but then everyone else gets so much info and details.
I don’t feel like I’m different during these readings, I try to stay relaxed, respond to questions the same, and I don’t ask questions/interrupt their reading.

Funnily enough, I think part of the reason that I would like a reading is that I was hoping I could get more information about what was causing my bad experiences 10+ years ago. I’m thankful it stopped but the woman I met had a different native language to me and I think I struggled to understand what she was meaning with some of it.

I’ve not attempted to get a reading for maybe 3 years now, since I feel like I must be the problem.

[montanacutie62]

I use Samantha on Etsy. She’s wonderful. Her shop is called Mystical Monday.