I need sincere help/second opinion on this one as a SUPER sensitive empath/psychic/blah blah

[phoenixphire0808]

I have always had others tell me that I am super sensitive and absorb everyone elses.. everything.. if I am not careful. I am asking how to deal with healing others, but in way of this specific incident as an example:

I had a friend die in a fire. I believe I crossed him over.

I’ve also been picking on specific people brain damage and been feeling it as my own without realizing it.

A long time friends just a few mins ago expressed to me.. his brother is currently in the hospital from and OD. Dealing with emotional struggles since being in a fire.

I keep picking up on such strong things that make sense to me but I can’t tell these people for the sake of their own well-being…

I don’t even know fully how to ask what I want to ask… Do I help these friends? HOW?

It’s a very conflicting state of being. I’m tired of the struggle of keeping up with my own self care paired with a strong sense other people’s stuff on a day to day basis that seems like a dang mystery all the time while I still learn what is mine and what is not .
Thank you in advance for a help

Discussion

[revengeofkittenhead]

Be careful with tapping into other people’s energy and emotions without their consent. It’s not good energy ethics. Sometimes, as empaths/psychics, we can’t help the spontaneous blasts of information we get from people, but it’s still an intrusion and an ability/phenomenon you have to treat with respect. I’ve had some formal training in mediumship and psychic development and the general rule of thumb/ethics is not to give unsolicited “readings” or advice to people based on what you pick up. Mind your own business. Focusing on grounding and shielding your own energy will help reduce this unwanted intrusive energetic chatter.

[NotTooDeep]

You are quite the reader and healer. Pay attention to your energy hygiene and take care of your space, and you’ll be fine. The following will help you with your healings and readings. Ground and fill in before and after doing either.

Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh.

Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy.

Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle.

Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing.

So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe.

Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath.

Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath.

Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back?

Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body.

Getting this far means you’ve already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created.

Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you’ve placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from.

Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you’re full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You’ll run better if you aren’t a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn’t read “Full”, bring in another gold sun.

Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch.

There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you’re standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open.

After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord.

After this, you’re ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound.

Now that you’re here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra.

Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you’re ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day!

Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you’re also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability.

[AbyssDomme]

You can ask people if they want “intuitive feedback” about a topic if it’s something they’re talking about in the moment. Then tell them what you’re getting or feeling if you think it would help them.

If it’s just like you sense their pain, it may not be helpful information really. A lot of intuitive information isn’t useful to other people it’s just information overload for the psychic or Empath. Which is why it’s imperative to shield so that you protect your energy and well being.

Getting intuitive information is sometimes just information. It’s not always a sign you need to do something with it. It’s really important to have boundaries with energy so that you don’t get burn out or otherwise feel frazzled.

[mind_of_luminesce]

It sounds like you’re already being helpful to them. They’re looking for someone to confide in and you were there.

If you’re looking to speak with them on what you’re feeling on a spiritual level that could be beneficial but going about this you should expect a major shift. I see this as a good thing. You’ll be taking the role more so than you already are of the elder or matriarch in the relationship though.

It’s up to you though. It looks like they’d be hoping for you to do so from my perspective.

[Rainebiwbrite]

I struggle with this as well. I cannot get around people much because they drain me. I can pick up on anyone’s energy and their feelings and emotions. My family being the worse! The last few years I’ve lived under a rock and try my best not to socialize lol I just can’t do it! Feeling other peoples pain and emotions are just so hard!

[phoenixphire0808]

I wanna make my own comment here and make it clear to the person that messaged me talking about being a shaman and doing spells on people isn’t right and I don’t know what I am doing….

I understand to the best of my ability where you are coming from… But .

My Reiki works.

Just because I haven’t practiced in a bit and can still read people effectively all while struggling with wanting/ignoring my gifts knowing I cannot escape and it all comes down to learning who we are and what we want…

I felt your energy behind it and don’t appreciate talking to me like looked down upon like people do on “baby witches” and we don’t have to be shamans for God sakes. Eclectic is freedom!!

[Pacific2Prairie]

You don’t have a filter. You are letting everything in.

Set a boundary of what information is okay such as positive and messages from anything that is love and light.

Believe in this boundary and have conviction. This is also how you prevent negative experiences or energy invading your space.

Also look into your childhood and the events that lead to you being sensitive. Many empaths gain their sensitivity from trauma. You also might have unresolved issues leading you to “leave yourself open”.

Stand up your own brain and energy.