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is anyone able to help me interpret these cards?
updated 3 years, 3 months ago 1 Member · 7 Replies
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The lovers once on the same path have had a disagreement that makes their connection feel severed. They are still on this journey but question why because of a negative emotion that keeps them from reaching out. Neither will make the first move, the vulnerability keeps them from admitting wrong or understanding the opposite view. This energy separates them and dampens their intimacy.
One partner is not who they said they were and has failed to keep a promise or has lied in some way. The lie seems unintentional, a lie by omission of their past, a disguise of their true personality. Something hidden has been revealed and it is a disappointment. The partner behaved badly but either didn’t know or didn’t think about how the other partner would feel about this thing. (The phrase playing games comes to mind)
There seems to be pain caused by something that was said. Perhaps a text conversation gone wrong or a poor use of social media. The hurt partner cannot get the words out of their mind because it was written down so that they can read it many times. The hurt party ruminates on the words, is pained by something their partner said either a bad thing to them or conversation with others that betrayed them. The question is either, “why would you say that to me? Don’tyou know how that would make me feel?” Or “how could you share that with them? That is ours.”
The partner who was hurt/disappointed is remembering who they were before they got in the relationship and misses that person. They question why they have changed and ask how can they get that person back. They know what they have to offer, and it was hard for them to offer themselves. They find themselves unappreciated and compromising who they want to be. Their partner doesn’t celebrate them any more and self esteem is getting low.
It seems the partners have outgrown each other and the dreams they expressed, the goals they wanted to achieve just have not worked out and may never work out. The opportunity to grow together was not taken and someone has a dream for the future that the partner won’t share. Perhaps their lifestyles make it so there will be no marriage/family or getting that home together is impossible. Whatever the goal/future was that they dreamt about, it hasn’t happened yet, keeps being delayed or sabotaged by one partner who will not acknowledge that is the case. Changing the relationship goal is needed for both to be happy.
A change of environment and atmosphere is needed as well. One partner feels drained and does not self care while the other partner gets what they need by looking elsewher; they invest outside the relationship either with their own friends or a hobby that excludes the giving partner. If the couple cannot share more experiences together, change the cold approach to a more tender one, they will not find what they need at home. Perhaps the giving partner needs to make themselves a priority but they fear moving on because starting over is lonely and their world has little support for such a move. They don’t know how to change behavior without risking a loss.
The end of this relationship is not definitive but understanding, communication and intimacy have to be reestablished before love can feel safe again. Both parties have to work on their responsibilities. One partner has to invest in following through with their promises, be who they claim to be, and stop ignoring what the other needs on the basis they don’t need it to. The other partner has to forgive, trust, be willing to be vulnerable a bit longer even though they want to claim up and hide. Both partners have to reach for the same goal at the same time or else one will begrudge the other for the hoops they have to jump through. One of you was wrong at the beginning, but now the other is wrong because they reacted badly. Both feel hurt/misunderstood. Both feel the other doesn’t put in the right effort. Neither wants to reach out first. One of you must be brave, and when you are, the partner has to meet that brave act with acceptance and kindness.
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You are straight up not having a good time; lots of emotional blocks, bad cycles, with feelings of betrayal/let down yet there is a small hope for renewal.
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this spread is regarding my current situation with my boyfriend. i definitely feel like i’ve self sabotaged but i’m really confused and i’m questioning if i’ve just lost feelings for him
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it looks like you’re having bad time, when i see those cards reversed its bad. ten of swords is also really bad
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You must be emotionally exhausted from this unhappy relationship. I suggest that you at least consider the idea of taking a break till you feel less emotionally wrought.
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Whatever it is you’re going through, it’s super unhealthy for you. You have tons of blockages going on right now that are keeping you from being your best self. Reversed ten of cups and the World are telling me you could be so happy and whole and complete if you just cut off this toxicity. Don’t be scared to do that, because the cards here are definitely telling me that it will end up working out in your favor.
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A young person (page of cups) is thinking about their relationship. The choppy water behind the her, suggests things aren’t going as well as either of you wanted. There are hurt feelings on both sides but no one wants to let go. Both feel like there’s something more here, at the same time the patterns are getting old. Either you two can’t get over some negative event in the past that led to strong emotions, or both of you have friends that think you’re not good for each other. The last card, the 10 of swords is lovely – I love this deck! There’s too much drama being brought to the relationship on both sides.
Unless subsequent readings show more unity (ace or two of cups, ten of cups, three of cups, lovers etc) the relationship will get old for both of you. 🙁
Is this accurate? I’d love to know.
