Is it Wrong to View Death as a Positive?

[Jessica]

Death used to really scare me when I would see it but after awhile I started to view it as signaling rebirth and new beginnings. Kind of like one chapter coming to an end and another beginning. So not necessarily bad, but absolutely something coming to an end and something else starting.

However, I’ve become rather uncertain tonight during a reading. I’ve been struggling with a loved ones addiction issues and for that reason I decided to walk away from the relationship and give him space while his deals with his recovery. I had done a reading awhile back that indicated that our relationship was hindering his healing. As much as I wanted this person in my life I was scared that by trying to force a relationship to work it might actually prevent him from his sobriety from alcoholism and ultimately lead to his actual death. So I let him go. I told him I would give him space to heal and focus on sobriety and we ended things.

I did my readings tonight and one thing I asked was if letting him go would bring him back to me. I got Death.This time I’m not sure if it’s signaling a rebirth for our relationship down the road, or if it’s telling me that things are truly over for us and it’s time to move on?

I feel very confused.

Discussion

[kallisti_gold]

There are no cards that are wholly positive or wholly negative. Death *can* be a positive sign.

Death is a card of endings and transitions — remember that “every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” That’s not to say that the positive aspect of the card equals your desired outcome… but it’s something to keep in mind.

[SharkTheOrk]

*Technically*. Which, contrary to the reddit hive mind, is the worst type of correct.

Technically because death subtracts value. But in reality, a subtraction can lead to a vacuum which can be filled, and thus ultimately a positive.

Which is why it’s best to understand death as change, because we can’t account for the possibilities. Your relationship *as you know it* is dead. A new relationship could potentially emerge if that’s a direction you wish to travel. I feel likely this relationship is more between you and yourself than you and your partner.

[Celadon94]

Death means your romantic relationship is over. You can view that either positively or negatively. As you say, you made a sacrifice for someone you love to allow them room to heal. He may well need a friend, rather than a lover with her own wants and needs. Not every end is a tragedy.

[starrynight1086]

I always view it as death AND rebirth. It’s like the seasons—things die off in the winter and are born again in spring.

You asked if letting him go would bring him back to you, and because you phrased the question like that, the interpretation i intuitively came to is that you had to let him go in order to bring him back in the capacity that will benefit your relationship moving forward.

But again, it is only one card. I would do a full spread to get more details.

[richspinach02]

I actually love the death card, because to me it always means I’m evolving and becoming a better me. I’m clearing away the old, and bringing in the new. It may not be an easy process, but I’m always better for it.