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Discussion
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I (f18) was cleaning the kitchen and after I finished he went in to the kitchen she stood next to me and told me what a great job I did. That wasn’t the issue, I told him that he should help out sometimes because the workload is to big for me sinds my mothers operation. Than he responded with women belong in the kitchen and that he will never ever clean the toilet etc. Because that’s what women are supposed to do. He also added that he will never ask me to drill a whole in the wall and shit like that because that’s a mens job. I’m a bit pissed of tbh. I’m a closeted lesbian and I was planning on coming out but I’m questioning if that is a good idea or not.
This happen like 5 minutes ago so sorry for this vent-y text and for my spelling errors English is not my native language.
Update:
Yesterday after the incident I told my mother what my stepfather told me and her reaction was pretty unique. She told me that he was right to say all those things because there are mens jobs an women’s job. She is supposed to be my female rolmodel, and she herself claims to be a strong independent non nonsense type of person. This really saddens me deeply. Also this morning I told her that I still was mad at my stepfather to say those thing (he pretends I didn’t happen, I think I deserve an apology tbh, but probably won’t get one). She asked me if I really would think that he was able to clean because of his tallness (he is 2m and like 150 kg). And I told her what if he lived alone would he live in his own filth? She said that he doesn’t live alone so he doesn’t have to worry about thing like that. Than she said that she won’t ever do those manly either things because that’s not how it is supposed to be. She that told me that gender roles are a good thing that people have had for ages and even in her parents relationship. This makes me so sad. They have done and said questionable things in the past but this is absolutely disgusting to me. I’m working this summer to save some money so next year I’ll be able to move away from them. It’s so difficult to live with them because I do love them but the way they think is just so old-fashioned.