Mediumship development and the Ego

[Neville]

Hello friends. Last night during my nightly meditation I experienced a knowing that I was previously blind to.

Background is that I have been aware of my own psychic abilities since age 11, but only recently thought that I might be a medium as well. As such, I’ve been studying mediumship, reading books and have signed up for a couple beginner mediumship classes.

I’ve been putting a lot of energy into reaching for unfoldment, and in 6 months I’ve come along a bit, but still don’t really feel that connected to those who are no longer in physical form.

Well, during this meditation I was given the knowing that I have been pursuing this mostly for the purpose of ego-aggrandizement. Though I do have a genuine desire to live a life of service to to spirit and to others, part of me still wants to receive validation from others as a medium or just to plain feel “cool” because of it. I had been blind to this previously.

I’m coming here to ask for advice from others who are maybe a little further along than I am. Any tips or practices I should undertake to diminish my egotistical pursuit and increase my ability to allow unfoldment to happen?

Any tips for me to approach this from the right angle? I feel like if I can move ego aside a bit, then the spirit connection will come more easily.

Discussion

[RicottaPuffs]

Sure. Do your work without compensation or seeking fame. Do the work without calling attention to yourself.

You can do it without a fancy Etsy storefront or a recommendations or reviews page and absolutely free if you feel ego is your issue. Since the talents that you use, are not yours alone, and are not solely for your benefit.

Ego is not an issue when it is done for the purpose of service, as service, and not as a jumping off point for Etsy or TikTok or self satisfaction, including fame.

You can forego doing readings at all, if you are concerned about negative motives.

The idea that we must remove our egos is a myth. Our egos are our basic personalities and they are us, in opposition to the Western belief that we must remove our egos to become one with the Universe. We are not meant to erase our egos. It is a misconception based on a misinterpretation of Eastern philosophy that we must remove ourselves, our basic selves, to be more.

As souls, we are here to function as individuals as as such to learn or to be of service, not, to return to that unconscious and unevolved primordial sludge.

I think by doing work free for awhile, you might discover the point of your talents and the true purpose of them as they apply to you. Thus removing the problem of aggradization of ego.

[sendakattack]

Therapy and trauma work. Your desire for recognition comes from somewhere and your ego has been servicing that need. Bringing awareness to the original wound can bring about who disillusionment.

[omnipisces]

Ego is like a horse. Useful when guided, dangerous when left unattended.

You can check certain ways the ego works, so once you’re conscious of them, then you can avoid falling in its traps.

We can approach this by two ways. First is from interior to exterior. You focus on your shadow and by getting conscious of things in there, you change your behavior and way of thinking / feeling towards things outside, including help others. The other way is from exterior to interior. You go help others and from facing their difficulties, you find what resonates inside of you that must be changed to better help them.

Facing the ego is like facing our shadow, the ugly part and bring light to it. It is recognizing the things that disturb our spiritual progress and we weren’t aware of. For example, virtue and vicious. Virtues come from our soul, our Higher Self, but they must be exercised to exist in this world and that work is a journey by itself. Vicious are the virtues we haven’t exercised yet. So, basically you could meditate and analyze what causes each vicious on you and search how to fight it, while working on virtues opposing them.

Search for the causes and work on it.

Other thing is to be aware of some defenses mechanisms of the ego. Ego is fragile, so when some threat appears, it use those psychological mechanisms, like an instinct but more sophisticated. Everyone makes use of them, some types are more frequently used dependently of their personality. Just be aware of them and try to understand why they exist and how to get rid of them. Love is the answer, but how love takes form in that case, what kind of love and comprehension is lacking there is something to be discovered by ourselves.

At least, you can say selfishness and pride are the main reasons to disturb our progress and the cause of our misfortunes. They are like the main trunk and vicious are the branches. Keep pruning this tree until you have cut them both by the root.