Mediumship Perception and Mistakes. Why they Occur? How to Accept our Limitations. Go Forward.

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I wanted to share one of the most difficult areas of mediumship and hopefully it may help newer mediums.

Mistakes in perception happen. Mistakes in interpretation occur.

When we do a reading for a client we receive information in many forms. We get images and verbal communication and feelings. Those feelings and communications come from the soul or spirit we encounter. We feel and interpret what they are experiencing. Their experience comes through their lens. We see and feel it through our lens. Therein lie the limitations.

Mistakes occur for a few reasons. Spirit presents itself with a bias. The bias can be the feelings and appearance the spirit wants us to see. It can be the way they want to see themselves. It can be with the emotions, the abilities, and the limitations they have in communication as a deceased soul, or, are influenced by the limitations they had in communication when they were alive.

We have to navigate each reading as an individual encounter. It took me months, to be able to understand one spirit that is around me. He said things that were offensive to me. He did not understand boundaries. At one point, another spirit intervened to tell me not to be angry with a remark that he made and that spirit that interceded, let me know, who this person had been in life. I made a terrible mistake dealing with a mentally challenged forty something spirit, because it was not obvious that he was mentally challenged.

He made remarks that were incendiary. He still has trouble with filters. HE has NO filters. He is a comfort and a project.

I made the mistake of not being able to figure him out. After three years of his telling me it was okay, (that I yelled at him), I have allowed myself to understand he has accepted my apologies. You know special needs individuals always forgive. so, I had to learn from him, to forgive myself.

We speak daily, now and I have adjusted my approach to him and am gentle when we speak. I stay in teacher mode.

In dealing with things such as readings where the sitter and the spirits have complex situations surrounding the deaths and the aftermaths, with unanswered questions, we can make mistakes.

Our perceptions are colored by the perceptions of the deceased. We see the way they interpret their deaths. We can see the way they really died, where they were, who they were with, how it all came about and more than the deceased person knew.

Mistakes can occur. We have to accept that what we interpret, may be slanted and we have to try to filter it, through logic, using all of our skills.

An example from a series of readings a few years ago, that bothered me immensely , is as follows. I was involved trying to help find a missing grandparent. I was able to see the road he was on when he disappeared in a forest. It was a huge, huge forest. It was a National forest. Trees and hills and more trees and hills. Dirt roads. I have not been in that forest. So, I had to struggle to view clues to his location.

I tried to see signs and markers and where he was located.

The signs were not of much help. What I was able to pick up was a number of miles this person still needed to travel to get to his destination. In was able to see two vehicles, from the perspective of the deceased man, in a turn out, on a road.

My mistake, was that I could see a weapon, and that this person’s body had not moved. Each time I checked on him as people searched for him, I could see him in the same spot.

My mistake as a medium, was in thinking he had taken his life. In his head, his actions, taking a side trip had led to his life being taken. I was unable to see that he had been murdered. It was a colossal mistake.

When I asked the client if it was possible that he had taken his life, she went ballistic. After all, he was not speaking to me. He was showing me what he saw from where his body was. When he spoke it was in a panic. His thoughts were disjointed. Umm. Yes. They were. So, I asked a question, that offended the client so much, she never spoke to me again.

My mistake was in evaluating what he felt, rather than in what happened, because I was seeing and feeling from this man’s point of view.

The client had a great time chewing me out. “He would never take his own life”! “He had grandkids”! That one question, cost me the client.

I was mistaken. He was ambushed by a single opportunistic criminal. His vehicle was stolen. His murderer was eventually apprehended. But, my question, which had seemed important and necessary to me, was a huge mistake. I had failed to recognize the fragility and volatility of my client.

I had been helping that client for about a year. I lost that client and was subjected to a tirade of anger and indignation. I learned that lashing out at the medium is no different than lashing out at the teacher, or lashing out at a hospice worker. It happens. Closest target.

I had to accept that. I had to understand that the limits in what I was able to get for the client, made her so angry that the fact I let them know where to look for him, was overshadowed by the mistake in thinking a murder was a suicide.

In order to let that lack of insight go, I had to spend an entire day at the beach. I apologized to the victim. I apologized to the Universe. I allowed myself to release the images of his body and his murderer. I did not follow up on the trial or the sentencing or the aftermath.

I felt that death. It was not mine, and the pain was all too real. I grounded and cleansed and cried it out.

As mediums we are sometimes limited to what the individual soul allows us to share. I tried to move around that body and up and down that path. I kept being pulled back to the view of the body, from behind it. It was limited.

We are human. we are humans with extra abilities. We are by nature, imperfect and make mistakes. We learn from them.

Letting them go, when they are a part of something so crucial, is not easy.

Do it. Accept that you only had a piece of the puzzle. Allow the feeling that are not yours to go back to the soul they belonged to in the first place.

Forgive yourself for being fallible and be grateful for what you were able to pick up. Forgive the client for expecting you to have panoramic vision and perfect details. Those seldom come.

We provide a valuable service that costs us emotionally, physically and permanently.

I am working with what I am being shown, and asking myself, is this what really happened, or is this how the soul of this person wants or needs, to see this. I am a work in progress.

After one wrenching medium adventure, I had to stand in the Pacific Ocean and let those emotions go. I looked like a blubbering fool. So what beachgoers? It was my process. I put on sunglasses and moved on down the beach.

I had helped in all of an entire family’s grief for two months. I gave that back to it’s origin and allowed myself to be human, to be one person, to be flawed and gifted at the same time.

(I also went and threw coffee cups. If they didn’t break, I kept throwing, until I was exhausted, I ran out of cups and a walk around the block had to be repeated.).

Let these readings and the aftermaths go in whatever way you need to allow them to release.

Do better the next time.

Discussion

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[kathy8675309]

It seems like mediums are judged so harshly or put up on really high standards? That as a human is hard to reach, like Sylvia brown she made one mistake that some girl that got kidnapped was deceased and the girl turn up alive ten years later, and they practically crucified her for that, but it is like look at how many millions of accurate readings that she did on people, it seems like some people forgot that we are human too, there is times I look at a picture of someone and I can’t always tell if they are passed right away? Because their energy is still so strong to the physical world, so I have to learn to be careful of making that call of if they are still with us or not and I have got it wrong before. thank you for sharing your story it is interesting and I have gone through some of the same things with my gift and the people I was doing a reading on.