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My dad passed away yesterday, is looking for ways to communicate with him a bad idea? I just don’t want to let the bad in doing so. What are my options?
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I tried to comment on your post in the paranormal subreddit, but comments were locked. Here is what I wanted to say. . .
The dead can hear our thoughts, and also know when we speak to them. Simply ask him to communicate with you in your dreams, or to send you some kind of sign. Anything else is not advisable if you are not experienced in magick/witchcraft.
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It’s hard to receive communication after such a close loss due to grief. You’re brain will just block it. Also a soul needs time for healing, life review and counseling too. Some say give it about 3 months before you try to communicate with them.
I lost my father over 3 months ago too, I received a message from him in the form of seeing three spinning lights that exploded with a loud bang right before I was about to get out of bed and before I opened my eyes..It startled me right awake. I was really confused and later I realized it was him because he loved fireworks so much. This was about 2 months after his death.
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First, I’m so sorry for your loss. Second, I contacted a medium 7 months after my brother was killed and it brought me the most peace surrounding death, and particularly my brothers. He was killed in November, single dad, age of 30, we were in a huge fight. I felt a ton of guilt. I needed to know he was ok somehow.
I searched for 7 months, I wanted to go with my gut, but I also wanted to make sure I wasn’t getting scammed. I found Dana Preshous and set up my appointment. She had 101 reviews and all but 2 were 5 stars. The 2 poor reviews were about a scheduling error in the same week, and they refunded. Scheduling errors happen so I gave it a go.
My grandma passed in October, she and I were always incredibly close. I always talk to her when I’m alone, driving, pulling weeds, anxious, happy. I just have always felt that she’s with me. She was the first to show up. She knew I was skeptical and told me it was her on my fence (bird that reminded me of the ones we looked for as kids) the week before, when I was pulling weeds. She talked to me a lot about things I had been struggling with.
My uncle who passed when I was 8 also showed up. He apologized for a fight on the phone with my uncle, the night before he died. When I called my uncle he just cried. I guess he’s felt guilt the last 21 years. He also told me he died due to a misdiagnosis, which I found out after from my mom and uncle was true.
Last, my brother was there. He passed in November the Sunday before Thanksgiving. She said he was coming up slowly, as if his tail were between his legs. He felt bad about our fight and immediately apologized. He had a rosary cross our late Gpa had given to each grandkid when we were kids. My brother never left without his. It was in his hand the night he was hit by a vehicle. While he was on life support, anytime someone moved it my sister and I would literally lose our minds. He told me thanks for keeping his necklace safe, and honoring what that meant to him here.
He told me that the best way to describe the afterlife here is the movie Soul from Disney. He said that the colors wherever he is are all like lightening, that he’s free in a way he never could have been.
Something I can’t describe is the vibe I felt while it was all happening- all positive, but like overwhelming love and peace?
It left me knowing I’m never truly alone, and those we love are never truly gone.
side note – I’ve heard from some people on here that you should wait 3-6 months before contacting a medium after someone passes because it takes time. I don’t know the semantics on that, but if someone else who does wouldn’t mind providing some insight for OP
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“Death Is A Natural Part Of Life, Rejoice For Those Around You Who Transform Into The Force.”
I pretty much believe this very notion. If it helps, have conversations internally with your dad. Ask questions or make statements to him and listen for answers that he would respond with. Mom passed away in 2015. It’s how I converse with her. Is it her….maybe, maybe not. It helps though.
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I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you in compassion and comradeship. I am right now going through grief myself and resonate with you.
As a psychic I can share some thoughts with you that I learned from the readings I’ve done from people in a similar situation. There was one woman who carried the remains of her husband in an urn as she called us (we were doing a team reading) that particularly stands out.
Perhaps, though, this channeling may be able to explain more. It’s not my channeling but it really brings me peace every time I read it. Credit goes to the amazing work of Ms. Kribbe and to Mr. Boink, who translated it into English.
[https://www.jeshua.net/mornings/mornings7.htm](https://www.jeshua.net/mornings/mornings7.htm) (“Death and Beyond”)
Just like it says in the channeling, there is a new space for communication. There is a higher awareness, a lightness in beings who have left their bodies. What u/Zelena73 wrote is spot on. You are heard, far more than we might realize while in our physical bodies.
My heart goes out to you. If you have more questions about this topic, I’m more than happy to share what I’ve learned over the years.
EDIT: if you want to learn how to do some more advanced work here beyond u/StopAngerKitty’s awesome recommendation, I definitely recommend a psychic school with high vibes and a solid curriculum.
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Don’t do anything ritualistic. No ouija boards or anything. If he wants to visit, and you want him to visit, he will appear to you one way or another. In a dream, through coincidences, or some other force of nature. Reach out to him mentally, or verbally if you are confident. Death can be very traumatic and devastating, especially if you are the one who died. He may need time for himself.
If you never hear from him again, just know he probably found peaceful rest, and everything that was him has assimilated back into the void of the universe. Truly one with everything. Or maybe he will reincarnate somewhere else at a different time. Or maybe there is some sort of afterlife reward or punishment based on what one does in life. No one knows.
Other than that, I’m sorry about your dad. I hope you are well, and I wish you the best.
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Nothing to provide here, but I wish you peace and healing. I am sorry to hear this.
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I would like to say I’m so sorry for the loss you’re enduring. I lost my grandma this past march and she basically raised me. It was hard. My personally practice involves spirit work, but I don’t do spirit work while grieving. I believe it halts or prolongs the grieving process and can lead down unhealthy roads mentally. I have a small shrine to my grandma but I don’t talk to her yet. She’s gone for right now and we both need to be used to that dynamic first.
Your view may be different but I agree with others who said to avoid trying to communicate too much if you aren’t experienced with it. I’ve been doing spirit work for 5 years now and knew I wanted to do it for a few years before that. I spent a lot of time researching and making sure I knew how to be safe before I tried, and then I was extremely untrusting for quite some time. Still after 5 years I’m still very cautious.
Whatever you choose to do, be safe. If you do reach out, let yourself continue to grieve, it’s really important.
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I’m sorry for your loss. But I suggest to go get some rest. I’ve had my departed relatives visit my dreams when I’m rested. That’s usually after a week or so after I’ve given it time to sink in and cry.
Just to talk to him for now. He could hear you and is ok at the other side. It is us that needs guidance and help here. He is watching over you 🙂
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I’m so sorry.
Just speak. Ask him for signs but be patient. It doesn’t always happen when you want it but more so when you need it. Protect yourself with loving white light (just imagine a bright white light shining on you and covering you entirely), say no negative wanted and ask your father to come to you and give you signs. Try meditation even. There’s nothing wrong with anything you do as long as you have positive and loving intentions.
Many hugs. I hope you find your peace.
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
I don’t have a lot to add except to say to be careful when seeking a medium. Grief is an all encompassing state, it’s hard to be as objective or clear headed as you usually are when you’re grieving, and that extreme vulnerability makes you a scammers dream mark.
If you do decide you want to go ahead and seek a medium, try to get personal recommendations. There are a lot of fake mediums out there who will prey on your grief and tell you what they think you want to hear. I sought a medium following the death of a family member and 4 in a row told me what they assumed this relative would have said, when actually this person wouldn’t have said anything like they claimed! I knew I’d found a legitimate one when they told me something complete different, but it was exactly what my relative would have said!
It’s also easy to find yourself telling the medium about your loved one – rather than the other way around – but you want so much to find that prove your loved one is okay & still around, you easily & understandably can forget it was you who told the medium this persons traits, not the other way around.
It’s also worth bearing in mind that even the best of the best cannot guarantee they’ll be able to contact your dad. They can try, they can be legitimate and connect with every other passed relative, but if your dad doesn’t feel ready to make contact yet, nobody can force that connection. And for that reason maybe take a little time to grieve some more & try to come to terms with the grief. If you go and they can’t connect to Dad, it’s nobody’s fault, it’s not that Dad didn’t love or miss you, it just means it’s not the right time yet, but it does hurt & it’s hard not to take personally.
Sending you love
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I’m not into praying or meditating honestly. Is there no device out there that will help me achieve meaningful results?
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I’m sorry for your very recent loss. You could try reaching out yourself, and you could try reaching out with help. The former takes time to do safely and involves taking your first steps down the witchy path. You’ll have months of meditating, grounding, and shielding practice to do before you can even begin to learn divination. The latter *also* takes time to do safely, and I’d advise becoming a regular around the occult subs so you know the lay of the land.
Don’t worry — your dad will always be there for you. And even as you are now, you can still talk to him and send him your love. Be well. 🙂
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Too soon. If he wants to visit this soon, then let him. But putting extra strain on his energy this early won’t help him. Leave it a little while.
Look at it like this. He’s got on a bus, and you are at the station, and you are tugging his sleeve. He needs to be where he needs to be but you are not letting him on his journey, despite his intention to come back.
He’ll be in touch, but leave it a little bit so he can adjust to his new situation.
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I’m so sorry for your loss… there’s a 7-10 day crossing over window where loved ones are really easy to sense as they transition. Communication in dreams or even while awake may be very palpable. It’s not bad at all – here’s more info on this – [https://www.amandalinettemeder.com/blog/2015/1/22/the-crossing-over-window-what-is-it-how-much-time-do-you-have-and-can-you-go-to-your-own-funeral](https://www.amandalinettemeder.com/blog/2015/1/22/the-crossing-over-window-what-is-it-how-much-time-do-you-have-and-can-you-go-to-your-own-funeral) I would pay attention to when you’re in liminal state and your body is as relaxed as possible. It’s easiest to sense them then. ::hugs::
