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Minor aspects aren’t really important unless your Saturn is in 7H… what sign is your Saturn and Venus and how did your love life turn out? Did you wait until you were 28 years old (after your Saturn return) before you got married? Did it last? How many heartbreaks have you had and how did you overcome that self worth issue to be where you are today?
Any stories are welcomed including transits, stick the discussion to Venus-Saturn manifestation, thought further elaborations underpinned by other planetary placements are welcomed 🙂 I just wanna learn from people’s stories and feel less shit about dying alone. Thanks lol
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Natal Saturn in 7H or Venus-Saturn aspected people, how did your love life turn out?
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Venus and Saturn in Aries in my 7th house haven’t hit my Saturn return yet but I feel like my love life smoothed out as soon as I started taking responsibility for myself and my relationships. My tip is to not be afraid of embarrassing yourself. Just commit to using everything that you go through and everyone you meet as a opportunity for personal growth. Be honest with yourself about what’s wrong with you and the people you are dating. Address your childhood trauma. Love yourself. I feel like I went through a decade of emotional development in a couple of years because I committed to using my failed relationships and mistakes as character development. Currently in my first long term committed relationship after years of casual sex, situationships and getting friendzoned
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Saturn in Scorpio 7th house. At age 27 my 9 yr relationship ended, not by my choice. My whole world turned upside down for a long time, a couple years. I was single for almost 5 years until I met my spouse, though I briefly dated a couple of oddballs in between. I see now that the previous relationship was never going to work out but I held on for as long as I could – not out of fear of being alone but out of determination to see things through. Saturn return was brutal but I’m a better person for it. I saw the errors of my way of being and thought processes that contributed to that failed relationship. These lessons have led me to my marriage now, which is bright and deeply fulfilling.
Venus in Pisces, 11th house.
Mars (ruler of my 7th) is in my 1st house, opposing my Saturn. I also have Chiron in my 1st house. My Saturn return was immensely transformative. This sounds dramatic but the impact of the experience changed my soul to some extent. There were many many days where I was in so much emotional agony that I wondered if the emotional pain could actually kill me (I was never suicidal, I was just totally grief stricken). I am a different person. Many aspects of my life are significantly better too. I believe Saturn “rewarded” my efforts for really taking the time to work on myself without distractions and heal the broken parts of me that had long been buried in the past.
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i cant speak to how it’ll turn out but i have venus conjunct saturn in the seventh house. i definitely have issues with self worth and it’s almost alien to give myself love. i have a tough time even getting dates, but that might be because of the low self esteem.
8th house mars rules my seventh house and it does kind of feel like any meaningful connections i’ve had got subverted by people suddenly leaving my life (death or moving).
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9h Venus in Gemini squaring 7h Saturn in Aries and I’m in my mid twenties, still having pretty bad luck with dating. I actually often have issues finding people I truly like and I get cheated on a lot when dating. I have only went on dates with a hand full of people and whenever I date I feel like I’m settling rather than finding someone who meets my standards because I create an unrealistic expectation of what my partner should be like. It’s a bad habit but I can’t help it, my mind loves to daydream!
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I’m not sure why, but it seems 9 out of 10 people completely ignore the ruler of the 7th house cusp. That planet really is more important than venus. Not that venus doesn’t matter, but the planet ruling your 7th is *more* important. Where it is, what its condition and aspects are. Because that planet is the boss of your 7th house and all it holds, how it plays out.
And if one has saturn in the 7th, you can’t stop there. What is its condition by sign? And does it make an aspect with the 7th’s ruler? Does it get along with it?
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Placidus has my Saturn in my 6H but Whole Sign moves it into the 7H, which is ruled by Aquarius, so I assume Saturn is happy to be there. My natal Saturn is conjunct my Moon, and both are sextile with my 5H Sagittarius Venus as well as in opposition to my ascendant.
My love life, all things considered, has gone well enough (and now it’s great!). I’ve certainly had heartbreak but that’s been the worst of it; I haven’t had nearly the same horror stories that a lot of my friends do. Most if not all of my exes are decent people, just romantic mismatches. My bigger romantic hurdle, more so than heartbreak or drama, was just being noticed by anybody (I so do not vibe with my Leo ascendant, I’m convinced I must be a Cancer rising or something). I was never one to date around casually, preferring longterm and committed relationships, and was always very mature in my romantic relationships even as a tween. My most significant heartbreak was with my college boyfriend, and I will say that really did rock me to my core. I’m still disentangling a lot of stuff from that, and that event triggered a lot of mental health issues for me.
I met my now-husband when I was 23, we got engaged when I was 26, and got married a little bit after I turned 28. I’m of course in my Saturn return right now, and I think it crossed over the exact degree this past February. So far, so good (knock on wood)! I thank my lucky stars every day that we found each other.
I’m newish to the complexities of astrology and just starting to teach myself about progressions, so I don’t yet know enough to know if this is significant or how you interpret lunar progressions, but I did notice that my progressed moon was in Scorpio for the entirety of my college relationship, and moved into Sagittarius just before I met my husband.
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I have Saturn square Venus 0°. I’ve sadly accepted that now in my mid-30s I should just be done trying to date and find my one.
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Saturn-Venus conjunction in Sag 2H
Very chaotic love life (and life) until I turned 28 and met my current partner. 6 years in August. The Uranus in Taurus transit is throwing some shit though for sure.
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Ruler of 7th house (Neptune) is opposing Venus. Also have Venus opposite Saturn. Well.. I’ve had some relationships but they were of the same sort of dynamic as my family of origin. Narcissist/empath. (I was the “selfless” empath 🙄) Didn’t find out about this dynamic until just these past few years. Am learning how to love myself and have properly reciprocal relationships….
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My Venus is in Pisces (11th house) trine Saturn in Cancer (3rd house). I feel like my Neptune and Pluto aspects really come into play though with my evolution regarding love and relationships because Neptune is in my 7th house (square Venus but trine Saturn) and Pluto is in my 5th house.
In regards to just Venus/Saturn I’m very loyal, very devoted and can spot red flags from miles away so every time I started a relationship with someone I could always tell how it would end if it got to that point. But, you know, I put on my rose colored glasses due to the Pisces and Neptune aspects and went on my merry way with most of the guys I was with!
I’m pretty much past my hard core dating years (I’m in my mid 40’s) and I’ve mostly come to terms with the fact that I may never meet my guy not only because of health issues completely hindering any sort of normal relationship but I feel like I would have come to this point anyways even without the health stuff.
I’m really happy with my past dating life. I dated a LOT, and in between I had 7 long term relationships and loved/been loved just as many times. I’ve come super far in knowing what I want in a romantic relationship with someone and I’ve pretty much determined that my standards and independence are so high at this point that nothing could possibly work out the way I hope it will! I think I’d be less happy at this point in my life if I didn’t have such ample experience and love in my past. My imagination keeps me company :o) I’m such the dreamy romantic (and super Neptunian) that I have vivid, fantastical romance novels just floating around in my head all the time, haha :). It’s not that I’m not sad that I may never find my perfect man but It’s not something I dwell on as much as I did in the past when I was younger. I was much more clingy in my past and now I’m really not. It’s like I’m a completely different person when it comes to my approach to love and romance and that’s where I think Pluto comes in for me. I basically transformed myself despite longings and fantasies.
So, here I am, relationshipless yet happy with my experiences, happy with who I am and how I turned out but still hold out hope for some insanely perfect (for me) guy to magically pop into my life. Until then, I’ve got my insane imagination XD Feeling good and proud of who you are and how far you come can make a big difference in how you feel about being alone. It’s not all bad!
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7h Saturn in Leo, 10h Venus in Scorpio. Married at 25 and still happily married (years later). Moon square Venus.
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(Placidus) Saturn + Jupiter in 7th, venus in virgo in 10th opposing moon, squaring pluto+mars. I am still in my 20s, not married. The only lasting relationship I had was with someone older. Relationship is one of the more difficult aspects of my life.
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Venus Virgo opposing Saturn Pisces 7 degrees. Dating has left me feeling lonely and confused and I almost never trust my ability to navigate relationships without completely overthinking them. I usually end up with people who use me or don’t treat me well, and this is definitely tied in with issues of self-worth. It wasn’t until the pandemic that I was able to have real honest conversations with myself about what I truly deserve, and I finally found someone who values me and listens to me and wants the best for me. I’m desperately trying not to overthink it and go with it and offer love in the best way I know how.
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I have natal Venus conjunct Saturn in my Aquarius seventh house and I am going through my Saturn return in the 7th right now. I am definitely very particular about my partners. If you aren’t exactly what I’m looking for then I’m not interested. I often have a hard time meeting people I am actually interested in romantically and we definitely have to be friends FIRST before dating. I also have no problem not hooking up with anyone for long periods of time. I both really enjoy being with someone and also really enjoy being alone.
I was in relationships (mostly toxic) from 14-25. From 25-28 (present), I have been single and focusing on bettering the relationship with myself. It’s been incredibly difficult, lonely, and frustrating, but I am SO much happier now than I ever was while dating. I have a very solid group of supportive friends now, more so than ever when I was dating someone.
I’ve always said that I won’t get married until I’m at least 35, if at all. And I’m glad that I’m focusing on myself and did not get married before my first Saturn return. Not sure when I will date again, but I’m really content just taking up space for myself and examining how I can be the best partner in the future by being the best partner to myself now.
I’m sure my Saturn return will test all of this over the next two years, but I’m actually looking forward to growing and learning more about myself before settling down with someone. I’m a Leo rising, sag sun so I really appreciate my freedom and independence.
