On Mediumship, “the light”, and what it means to be a “Medium”

[Neville]

I’ve been reading this subreddit for a while now, now and then making comments and leaving remarks, posting advice if I think it could help (although I want to point out that no person can dictate your spiritual journey). Every now and then the topic of *the light* and what it means to be a medium comes up and I have a lot of problems with the way that some people have depicted it.

# What it means to be a medium

It means absolutely nothing. All it means is that you can speak to spirits. There is no obligation, no contract, and no “right or wrong”. Just like you have brown hair, blue eyes, or are short or tall: it’s just a part of you. You are not obligated to passenger the dead from one world to the next. It is not your life’s work to ferry souls on the river of Styx. Sorry to tell you, but you don’t owe the dead anything.

# The “light” and levels of spirits

Some mediums can only reach spirits who are ‘trapped’ on earth. Like an episode of Ghost Whisperer, these spirits have not completed the “life review” and are having trouble crossing on. Ghosts of trauma like war, suicide, murder etc are also often here longer than others. I call this the “lower level”, it’s also the most likely level that an inexperienced Ouija board used will encounter. The term bottomfeeders has come up now and then, but I do think that’s a bit generalized and cruel.

# Not all mediums are talking to “trapped spirits”!

Not every spirit needs to move on. Many are happy on the “other side” in a perpendicular ‘world/plane’ where they can exist in many places at once. Time and space aren’t the same there. These are the spirits who leave you dimes, the ones who hold your hand to comfort *you.* They are here because they want to be. They’re not trapped, and they don’t need saving. More often than not you need them and not the other way around. Some spirits just like to view life through their ancestors because it’s interesting and fun.

I’m writing this post because I think it’s damaging to go around telling everybody that if they’ve spoken to a spirit they’re supposed to be in an episode of Supernatural, saving the spirits from some kind of existential torment. Sometimes this might be true… but usually it’s the living who want answers from the dead. The dead sometimes comply, and sometimes they don’t.

For example, many people want to know their loved ones are okay. A spirit who has passed on doesn’t need to ask about you, they already know.

Most spirits are at “peace” or whatever you want to call it. Some spirits are “at peace” and don’t want to be dead (they’re people too).

Please stop letting mediumship be so cut and dry! The afterlife, like this life, is *very complex.*

Discussion

[[deleted]]

This was nice to read. Can I ask you, what is a “life review?” Is remaining here similar to unfinished business?

[polyaphrodite]

Thank you!! Until recently I was struggling with confirming myself and my experiences due to lack of others examples and sharing. Thanks to this sub, I’ve actually been able to accept more help from my guides and healing a lot of deep gaslit traumas due to lack of support and understanding growing up (surprisingly at a society not a family level).

I resonate with what you said and am excited as more people share themselves authentically.

[SkippingStone373]

Thank you for this. I always hoped a certain person was one of my guides and wanted to ask her for guidance, but didn’t want to take up her time. Never thought about time being different on the other side…

[ThatMiraculousMeme]

i write music together with my Angels!

[clg2112]

I love this! Pretty much everything you said was what my sister has told me and it’s always reassuring to hear others state what they know and learned w their gift. My sis is a very powerful Medium who has told me amazing stories that the average human being would not be able to handle or comprehend because so much of what you go through or know can be very complex

[Genericuser8118]

Have you experienced empathy with those passed? Their emotion is overwhelming sometimes. Some memories still have me close to tears.

Anyway, thanks for cutting the grass (ego.)

[KentLooking]

I have learned all this years ago. Which I have had conversations with people on this and corrected them. Funny how “Hollywood” and tv shows have their own view on it. Which many people believe. But the reality is different. While they they may get some things right but they change other things for entertainment purposes.

[sunfloweronmars]

Wow, thank you for sharing! I have some questions if you don’t mind: 1. Not all spirits were once human right? Like there are spirits/beings that we can’t see in this living world? and 2. I understand space and time are not linear and work differently elsewhere. When you say “some spirits just like to view life through their ancestors” can you expand on that? TIA!

[alpine_bum]

I recently heard about a woman spirit who sings in a place. She’s happy doing that forever in the bardo.

[echolm1407]

Thanks for this post. This broadens my view. I will change how I explain the light and spirits and mediumship.

[RicottaPuffs]

I like this. Being a medium does not mean one has to do anything with it. for years and years, I just observed or I said, “Hello”. I felt no need for development or enhancement. I had enough to do, already.

Oh my goodness, the trapped spirit issue. I know of mediums who only want to speak to spirits that are content. They don’t want to help spirits who may need help, or who ask for it. It is never required for a medium to do anything.

The stereotypes that exist on Ghost Whisperer and on Supernatural are not helpful to mediums. And Jennifer Love Hewitt’s character, Melissa, is too good to be true.

Mediumship is as individual as we are.

what are your thoughts on the docuseries Surviving Death? the medium segment made me cringe.

[justMeMyslf]

About 10 years ago I was finding dimes all over the place.? I haven’t really found them in the last few years…not sure why. Can you tell us more about the spirits who leave dimes and how they manifest these dimes. Are they getting these dimes from our world or just creating these dimes from material in their plane? I’m so curious about these dimes and sometimes pennies that seem to show up from nowhere. Thanks!

What else can these spirits do? So curious…

[weekendimmunity]

I always thought that before you start this life you agree in advance what you’ll experience. I guess I assumed that meant you knew how you’d die, be it slow cancer or unexpected murder. I didn’t realize that was the result of “dying unexpectedly”, because your soul already “agreed” to the outcome. Does that make any sense?

[newprofilewhodis1352]

I love this.

I used to be a hardcore non-believer of spiritual things. In June I had two dreams in one night. During the first one I met several dead ancestors—my grandfather who died when I was 1, grandma who died when I was 8, and my great grandma who died during the Holocaust long before I was even a thought. They talked to me and said things that I never thought I’d hear. I woke up sitting up in bed sobbing (have never woke up crying in my life). Eventually fell back asleep and I astral projected and was being held mid air by Jesus himself, who talked to me. It was euphoric and amazing.

The very next month I’d had an appointment with a medium to check it out. I had had the appointment for like, 8 months. It was a medium that my coworkers all saw and raved about. It was mind blowing. She knew all my dead family members and nearly everything about them. She talked about my parents and sibling and knew them so well. I was shocked out of my mind. It wasn’t just “oh, I am feeling… a dead guy, he says he loves you”—she even knew what my grandpa had said in my dream. It was insane.

My grandfather is my main protector. He stays here for me (and possibly for my cousins and his own kids). He sits on my bed when I cry. He says we’re so much alike. He absolutely adores me. He has regrets. He was from Poland and left after the Holocaust, when he’d escaped two Polish work camps, because his family had been slaughtered. He knew German, Polish, Russian, Ukrainian…. but he never mastered English. He worked three jobs at a time until he got too sick for that because he wanted to give his kids a chance he’d never had, and he succeeded. But he told me he sorely regrets the time he hadn’t spent with his kids, especially my dad. My dad is not a nice person. He’s a total narcissist. My grandpa regrets this. He thinks that if he had been present more he could have changed that. He is so, so regretful and he feels that he could have made MY life better by making his son’s better. So he watches me. He comforts me. I never had a conversation with him until he was dead. I was so young when he’d died. But I know he’s happy. I know that when my dad dies he’s going to hold him accountable. My medium saw him telling my dad in death about how he didn’t live well. My dad is going to wander a while because he won’t admit this. But I see forgiveness for my own dad in his death. He will eventually come to the light. I pray that he is able to do that quickly. I don’t think I’ll forgive him fully in life, but he will be repentant in death eventually.

I used to be terrified of death. Now I am not, at all.

Sorry for the random story, I do really like to tell it. My grandpa hadn’t “passed on”, he watches us because he really wants to. But I know he’s happy. He’s at peace in death when life was riddled by violence during his early years, and constant backbreaking work in America.

[weed_47]

Agreed.