Pluto-Moon hard aspect in a synastry chart? What’s your real-life experience?

[quesqotrickster]

What is it like for the pluto person? What is it like for the moon person? I heard that it can be extremely hard to leave relationships like this, why is that? Is this actually the type of relationship where 2 people keep breaking up, then getting back together? If these types of relationships can be karmic even, and every aspect in astrology can be positively and negatively manifested too, then beyond the toxicity, what’s the positive side of this aspect, once it’s worked on? Are these relationships always play a role just as a lesson, to teach you something, make past wounds/traumas come up again, to basically force the natives to work on these, or can these actually be long-lasting connections, when both people work through a lot of darkness but a lot of relationships just don’t get to the point of healing because they end in the toxicity part? If you had close relationships with this aspect, what was the dynamic between you? Is it always the moon person that is being “controlled”? Any input is appreciated thankyou!!🤍

Discussion

[AstroMalorie]

Moon person will probably find themselves being dominated by the Pluto person. Pluto isn’t really nice and the moon is quite soft. Not a great dynamic honestly. It can feel very attractive and magnetic but ultimately the moon person can be hurt very bad by the Pluto person whether or not the Pluto person intended it

[confusedabaer]

Lol
My composite chart with my boo, moon Square Pluto.

It is not for the weak lol.been through some toxic stuff that came from subconscious things. Moon in 5H and Pluto 7H at a point it became way too intense I had to break the connection off… but as you know,
Moon pluto can be addicting.
After a few years of powerstruggles, my boo and I are doing good and learned a lot from our past

[screamphilling]

I wish I had the answers. My partner has this synastry aspect with her mother. Her mom is the Pluto. I almost feel like only in death can the answers really become clear. Or after a drastic transformation occurs. It’s a very heavy one

[a-literally-who]

Have this with my second ex. Her Taurus moon in the 12th opposite my Scorpio Pluto in the 12th. We almost killed one another with how deep the power struggles were, it was horrible. Especially, me just unconsciously having such a painful effect on her emotions and feelings.

The worst is that she keeps trying to pull me back into her life, like we aren’t terrible together. She naturally attracts very Plutonic people however (Pluto in Sagittarius in the 7th), and my Black Moon Lilith in the 1st is exactly conjunct her Mercury in her 8th house as well. Her obsession and inability to let go is intense, and her need to constantly be in control and “own” me is the same. Lots of mind games, lots of manipulation.

I’ve managed to keep our interactions peaceful, at least. I would’ve thought after all we’ve been through she would’ve disappeared entirely, but the strong beneficial Saturn synastry we have does mean that there’s a lot of mutual respect and lasting-power which translates into us understanding the good of what we can achieve together, for one another. It’s just, very karmic, and very trying at times.

I don’t think it can make for a good relationship however, though it’ll quite likely lead to one starting.

[tiredgoatastrology]

I have Pluto opposite Moon in my natal chart, so because of Pluto being generational, I end up having my moon be opposite the Pluto of everyone my age. For me this means that what my Pluto Moon opposition represents, ends up influencing my relationships with people around me. My trauma comes up a lot, which makes sense, that’s the nature of trauma. But also as I go to therapy and develop the houses these planets are in, 9th and 3rd (learning to see a wide world view, improving communication) I feel empowered in my relationships

[Legitimate-Top1196]

I have Pluto conjunct Moon with my significant other. I think you have to look at the persons Pluto and Moon placements and aspects to see how they work with that energy. I am the Pluto person and it is definitely the most intense relationship of my life! Love/hate relationship. I have Pluto in my first house natal and it is fairly well aspected. We also have my Pluto trine his Mercury, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn. Sextile his North Node and exactly conjunct his IC. His Pluto is trine my Venus and square Neptune.

For the Pluto person it can be exhausting but I also feel a strong sense of responsibility (maybe karma?) for him. But it is also incredibly binding and no one comforts me (Cancer moon) or loves me like he does. He has helped to heal so many wounds and I have done the same for him. We have honestly seen the absolute worst and best of each other. The soul growth is tremendous with a relationship like this. We both have 8th house stelliums. So we do grow through our relationships.
He has such a powerful persona and he is the moon person. It took me a long time as the Pluto person to find my own personal power. So there was never truly a time that he was controlled. It was more so the opposite for a time. Which happens with 1H natal Plutos. But I have Mars Quintile Pluto. I have evolved and worked through issues-there are no toxic control issues anymore. I am an empath that is now truly spiritual awakened.
Definitely a powerful relationship if you’re ready to grow.

[theifty]

Pluto square natal moon: prone to emotional outbursts, I’m super controlling, sometimes unpredictable. Working on it though.