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I know I’m making myself a target with that title but hear me out.
Every single Scorpio I have ever met is terrified of intimacy. Even when in a relationship they find it hard to trust and fully open themselves up.
HOWEVER, it rules the 8th house which is pretty much the house of merging with one another and being one. No boundaries but trust, depth and loyalty. Scorpio is a very powerful sign but I think only when they allow intimacy into their lives is when they can actually harness that power. But most Scorpios will avoid that at all cost
What do you think? Are they more cautious than cancer?
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Scorpio a hypocrite?
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I don’t think “hypocrite” is the right word. It’s more of a “struggle.”
The whole “merging with one another and being one” is a desire. Scorpios WANT that. The 8th house desires trust, depth and loyalty. It’s the ideal. It’s almost like a fantasy.
The problem – very few humans can actually be loyal the way a Scorpio desires. Maybe only another Scorpio can be as loyal. Even then, it’s not guaranteed.
If you’ve ever seen the show, “Castlevania”, there is a character named “Isaac.” And to me, he embodies Scorpio/8th house energy. He experienced the cruelty of humans and life at a very young age. He tortures himself. He’s a necromancer. He doesn’t really trust anyone but Dracula. And he is extremely loyal.
Anyway, reality is in conflict with Scorpio’s desire. The suffering they have experienced in life proves that. Scorpios want love – true love or unconditional love. Maybe only the love that “God” can give.
If you can show a Scorpio that you can love what most people consider “ugly”, “disgusting”, or “terrifying.” Then, you MIGHT be able to get through that barrier of theirs lol
Scorpios understand darkness. They know how to love it. They know how to heal it. They can transform it to light. Most people do not see darkness the same way. And they know this. That’s why they struggle with their desire of oneness and intimacy. Many people judge, condemn and reject “darkness.”
How can you be one with the universe if you reject darkness? How can Scorpios experience oneness with someone when most people are afraid to love themselves fully?
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we need to be sure if we make ourselves vulnerable the other person can actually take it because it like getting your heart ripped out as a scorpio finally deciding to let go and be vulnerable in a relationship then being rejected. Myself and my uncle are Scorpios. He got engaged in his late teens early 20s then she dumped him, he never opened up to another relationship after that (he’s now in his 50s).
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No boundaries? I learned 8th house is about everything you hide from the world. Taboo, death, sex, trauma, pain. Perhaps you’re confusing it with the 7th?
But yeah. Scorpio is definitely more cautious than Cancer, or than anyone really. They won’t go anywhere if they aren’t 150% sure they have an exit strategy, because if it goes wrong, it will feel like it’s their death, almost literally.
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As a Scorpio man here I agree with other comments about we go through since childhood and life … we’re more intuitive about things this is why we don’t jump right away to a situation without study it first and know if that will serve us or not .
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The inability to be vulnerable is definitely our Achilles heel. My Scorpio placements are moon, rising, Jupiter, Pluto, & north node. I also have a Scorpio stellium in my 12th house.
Personally, I find it difficult to get close to people because of the way I was treated as a child. I couldn’t trust my parents to accept me or respect me as an individual. I was always apart of a specific system. It made me guarded really early.
I think we crave vulnerability because we didn’t have that growing up and we struggle to accept it because we don’t know how to trust something we’ve never authentically had. It can come across very hypocritical, especially since we’re so good at getting other people to open up about themselves. I see it more like we look to other people to show us what vulnerability looks like to them. It kind of helps us navigate what vulnerability feels like to us? I’m not sure if that makes sense.
Rejection followed my attempts of being open and honest and when it comes from the people who are supposed to love you most, it leaves a deep scar that seemingly doesn’t heal fully.
It’s not impossible for Scorpio to trust but we require depth because we were raised in shallow water. We kind of have to learn how to stop choking on the water and dive in deep. Which is uncomfortable when you don’t know what to anticipate. It really comes down to us accepting our authenticity – the true us that we were told we couldn’t and shouldn’t be.
Spending your childhood feeling isolated and rejected can sometimes cause Scorpio to stay in that painful place. We self sabotage because we’re familiar with pain. We push people away who want intimacy/vulnerability because accepting that could possibly hurt us more. It’s safer to stay in the painful feeling of isolation than to move forward into an unknown/foreign position.
Hope this makes sense 🙂
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Other people have said it well but I’d argue it’s more about not feeling comfortable being vulnerable than being a hypocrite. We never deliberately hurt people unless we’re hitting them back with the same energy they hit us in the first place but we learn early on that a lot of people can be insensitive and hurt others simply out of carelessness. Scorpio is seldom careless: every move is planned, every word is carefully selected, every interaction is considered in light of future endeavours. We’re never spontaneous because we’re shy creatures who are easily embarrassed and we try really hard to avoid being inconsiderate.
I’ll acknowledge we have massive double standards, but that’s usually because we’ve put too many people on a pedestal and got scarred in the process.
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What is the Venus sign for the Scorpios who have struggled with intimacy? I’m a Libra with Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio as well as Venus conjunct Pluto in Libra in house of Leo (5th house) and have never struggled with intimacy. I love romance and have had many relationships where sexual, emotional, and intellectual intimacy were something I greatly indulged in.
Edit: so my point is, Scorpio is known to be very intimate and Venus is the planet of romance and sexual pleasure. So maybe the Venus sign could create issues for Sun Scorpios if their’s isn’t Scorpio? Venus Scorpio is the most intimate Venus sign, we crave a mind-body-soul connection.
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yes more cautious than cancer and it’s probably a good thing, despite what everyone would say. at the end of the day many a cancer just wants to be convinced they can fall back and snuggle, whereas scorpio will do whatever it takes to avoid divorce/heartbreak. i didn’t appreciate that til later in life.
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I find scorpios to be untrustworthy sneaky and liars for no reason at all
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Yes scorpios can be hypocrites. Another example is when they ghost you and leave you wondering what’s going on. But then they come back and act like nothing happened and fully expect you to understand that they’re going through something or that it was okay to leave you in the dark. Then when you ghost them back they get mad at you and wanted consistent communication from you and yet they don’t give you that full communication back. Ironic since Scorpio is very big on reciprocating. Same thing with Pisces. Don’t know too much about Cancer. This can be a water sign problem.
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scorpio can be really shy …
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he is pretty content in his life overall but regrets that he hasn’t had a family of his own, but he’s devoted to his dog and pursues a few different hobbies which he probably couldn’t do if he was married ect. I think it demonstrates how serious it is for a scorpio though.
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it’s my mars sign and trust me i’ve had to LEARN boundaries the hard way (i’m a cap). when it came to any sort relationship with me, the boundaries got blurred really really quickly but i wasn’t doing it consciously.
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Ok like. If people betray your trust in childhood, you may crave intimacy but not be willing to accept it til you’re safe. They will test any partner out.
No boundaries is Neptune. You probably don’t know much astrology.
