What are the limits/boundaries of forgiveness “required” for unblocking?

[GoodArtichoke1559]

I’ve hit a spiritual block lately that’s interfering with my channeling, etc. I’ve read and found a lot of benefit from forgiveness but what this person did is beyond that.

I can forgive myself for not defending myself. I can forgive myself for how I reacted and acted out while trying to wrap my head around it. Heck, I can somewhat understand why from their super messed up perspective they did it, I just can’t forgive it or coincide it with not being a monster. I also worry that forgiving them or seeing their actions as human would mess up my idea and understanding of humans.

What’re the bounds of “necessary” or true forgiveness and what else is there? How else can I approach these blocks?

Discussion

[AbyssDomme]

You’re going to get a lot opinions about this, I’m not saying other people are wrong, but in my experience forgiveness isn’t necessary for healing or unblocking.

That said, forgiveness is helpful if you want to continue a relationship with the person. You have to find a way to mend what was broken (often it’s trust) and move forward. If you continue to harbor anger towards someone you are trying to have a relationship with, it’s not going to go well or be terribly healthy.

But if the offending party is dead or you cut them out of your life forgiveness isn’t necessary. In my experience it’s more important to honor your own feelings no matter how messy and awful they may feel.

Otherwise, it’s more like “shoulding” yourself to death. Like, “I shouldn’t be angry or sad”. But choosing to try to make yourself feel something than other than what you feel isn’t honoring yourself. Generally speaking your feelings are valid and with tricky life experiences often there are conflicting feelings. So no matter how messy you feel, how conflicting your feelings are, in my experience it’s healthiest to honor them, all of them. Not doing is often what causes blocks.

[SimplyRedd333]

Truthfully, it’s not about forgiving them sweetheart ✨ it’s about taking back your power and setting yourself free. It doesn’t give them license to do what they did it’s more to cut the connection to that trauma

[AnaAlesea]

If your personal stance on something is this strong then honor yourself first. You need to still heal from the situation and that’s fine, but if you can’t or don’t forgive them for the extent they took things to you don’t have to forgive. You can heal and declare not to accept that. Forgive them for what you can, forgive yourself more. Heal and let it flow.

[SimplyRedd333]

Truthfully, unblocking is healing past trauma which is Never easy. I personally had to go to myself and remember how far I’ve come and that the offending person didn’t deserve to talk up space in my mind or be in control of my emotions. I may forgive but never forget it’s just when it comes to your mind the hurt feelings and the trauma is no longer there

[leopard_flamingo]

Forgiveness is not about saying what you did to me/ or what you did was ok, it’s about letting go of all the hurt and all the pain that situation caused you. It is about letting go of the grudge, letting go of your anger/pain/disappointment etc… you don’t even need to let them know. Only you suffer from not forgiving, not the other person. It is about releasing and letting go