Younger brother 20yrs old passed away on Feb 10, ‘21

[Trent]

Hello… I’m here again. We just picked up my brother’s urn yesterday and I still couldn’t believe he is gone.

Our parents will be going back to their town this saturday to fix things, get theirselves ready to go back go to work, and take home my brother home. And it will just be me and my husband again in our pretty new single house. I will be alone at home during the day as my husband goes to work. I recently resigned my work from home job due to some circumstances.

I don’t know how to begin my life now after the passing of my brother. I postponed my citizenship cos I can’t do it. I don’t have much savings and I really don’t know what to do. I’m planning to change my career and I don’t know if I can still do it. I want to have a baby as well. I feel lost, but I’m just taking whatever life throws at me right now….. can someone please help me and at least ease my mind 🙁

Also, I have one more matter about my brother I want to know if he is really determined on what happened to him or is there someone playing with him and if there is, who is that or what kind of energy is that.

Thank you to everyone here.

** I can send my brother’s picture via PM if you want….

Discussion

[willowwing]

I’m so sorry for all the changes and losses you are contending with—of course you are feeling overwhelmed and adrift! Healing takes time and space inside your head and heart that only you can create. Try to stop spinning and frantically searching because in that state it is hard to hear the internal voice that already knows the answers. I’m getting that you need to make a weekly schedule for yourself and adhere to it for a bit, to give yourself some structure. Join something—a choir, a crafting class, a support group, even if they’re just virtual. You need those reminders that you are not alone and even strangers can give welcome companionship.

Our loved ones on the other side want nothing more than for us to believe they are with us forever. The separation is only physical and temporary. I feel strongly that your brother is trying to soothe you even as I type.

[c-shadrach]

Hi!

Echoing Willowwing here.

He is with me over my shoulder as I read. It’s clear he is more concerned for you than he could ever be about himself. He is shrouded in “dark” which to me usually indicates negative emotions associated with him. For example severe depression over his death.

He does not want that for you. Again, follow the other commenters advice, find a therapist just to talk if you can – grief is wildly overpowering and having someone help you professionally can help navigate its depths safely.

I don’t feel that he is hung up on his circumstance of death and he shows me that it was his time to leave Earth whether or not it seems like it was a good way to go or not. He doesn’t want you to worry – he’s safe, sound, worried for you, and loves you deeply from the Otherside/Heaven!

<3

[TheSaltyTarot]

How are you doing now?