Detachment for aquarius moons?

[quesqotrickster]

I know a few people with aqua moons and I though that the “detaching” should be understood as them disappearing from the face of the Earth for days (which can definitely happen through text) but I just realized that for all of these aqua moons it’s that the detachment is expressed through them still being and staying present in the actual situation but it’s the emotional investment of the situation they detach themselves from, and this makes so much difference because I thought up until now that the aqua way of “detaching” is the same as daydreaming or same as some neptunian or pisces type of spacing out, because they are not detaching from the whole situation but just a part of it, so I’m curious now, what’s the internal process you aqua moons go through when this happens? Is the detachment intentional and by choice or is it a subconscious thing? Is it that you just don’t want to invest yourself that much into it?

Discussion

[redianne]

Aquarius is an air sign ruled by Saturn. So when we speak of deattachment from Aquarius Moons, I believe we speak about a “rationalization of emotions”. Basically, instead of “feeling them”, the Aquarius Moon process her emotions through logic.

This could look as depiction, analysis, justification, interpretation of a feeling, life event and even relationship. The end result could look as cold, aloof, distant because we are used to a more intuitive, enpathetic, impulsive or even passionate approach about processing emotions (even the practicality of Earth Signs could feel more supportive and present than the logical, analytical approach of Air Signs but mostly of Aquarius and Gemini due to Saturn and Mercury’s influence. There might be a better affinity between the Moon and Venus, reason why the Libra Moons feels significatively different than her air pairs).

[grapahictea]

Hi! Aquarius moon here! I detached myself from people or situations that are no longer serving me or are no longer good for me (mentally and physically), and in this case is a conscious choice that I make.

Sometimes the detachment comes unconsciously, I detached myself from situations, people (temporaly) in order to have my time to think and reflect on the situation, sometimes just to clear my head, other times because I need that space to reflect and put my thoughts in order.

Also, I feel like detaching/running way when feel too pressured to make certain choices, or if not ready to make those choices and people around me keep pushing me into them.

Is not that “we” don’t want to invest, “we” rather take “our” time to invest because “we” need to be sure in what we are investing our time and energy.

So be patiently with your aqua moon friends/ people and give them their time and space. We are all different, we all have our own pace ❤

I don’t know if that responds your answer, but its my personal opinion based on events from my daily life 😘

[whatevaqueen]

Once I become aware of the fact I’m worrying or too attached to something, I consciously choose to not care. It’s all very wordy in my mind, depending on context I’m saying things like “I don’t need them, if they don’t like me then I don’t need them to.” Or “I expect them to come to me if they are upset with me or have a problem with me” or “eh even if abc happens, I could do cuz and be fine”. I basically talk myself out of caring so much and choose to step back and view things objectively. And I allow the emotion behind it all to come and go.

Typically I detach to prevent disappointment. And it is intentional. Sometimes I detach if I notice I’m sort of obsessing about something, I don’t like being that attached to an outcome so I would in that case remind myself that I’d be ok with whatever.

I have not always been this way tho, I use to be more dramatic and chaotic about it. And I would typically blame them even if it was a me issue. I think it used to be more subconscious. But I also have some tight squares to my moon, so.

[nope108108]

I have moon in Aqua, it’s like Dr Manhattan on Mars really. That’s exactly how I picture it, it’s the easiest thing to do in times of difficulty or emotional turmoil, like dissociation times a billion.

[Dangerous_Savings_19]

I don’t have an answer but I am also a pisces w aquarius moon so maybe just lost 😋

[A-Yandere-Succubus]

*Ah yes, Aquarius Moon problems.*

[rainonthelilies]

Detaching doesn’t seem like quite the right word. I always thought if I can explain how I feel then I must be able to feel it (not the same…) But I am able to observe my emotions from afar, to be there for others and feel their emotions too but also keep a sort of safe distance. Aquarians can end up treating emotions like fascinating scientific study concepts. They love to analyse them as such.

I’ve learned through therapy that this is one healthy coping mechanism called intellectualisation. It’s ok to use it, it gets dangerous if you rely on it too much. Had to learn to reconnect to emotions in the body and just let myself feel them.

I’m a sun-Mercury aqua, Gemini moon (so air too), Leo asc so ruled by sun making me heavily Aquarian.

[CLD10]

I’m Aqua Sun/Aqua Moon/Gem rising

Honestly I can be heavily invested in something for a significant amount of time. Eventually if it (job, relationship, fling whatever) stops serving me in a positive way or if I’m trying too hard and not having it reciprocated I’ll just switch off any emotional attachment.
The process is unconscious for me and super interesting because I will feel myself detaching but push harder to care almost like “giving it a last chance” and I will keep throwing myself into it, spending money, energy, time. During this ‘last attempt’ phase I’m slowly detaching myself and deep down caring less and less but still outwardly appearing like I’m super invested. Then the time will come where I feel nothing associated with it and I pretty much disappear or if I respond it comes across cold and uninterested. The person/job always acts shocked and blindsided as if it was an instant detachment. It def wasn’t it was happening long before they realise. I can think of soo many examples of this.

We don’t really live life through feels and emotion, we live it through our minds and thinking. So we act based on logic not emotion. Often I can observe emotional situations like a science experiment and almost play with it

[smallcuppabrew]

aqua moon here! i would say at my core i’m an extremely emotional person. i cry a lot, i pick up/am influenced by other peoples emotions and i feel very deeply. the thing is, i can kinda just, turn it off? if i dont want to feel something anymore, i simply don’t. its hard to explain but i feel like i can just turn off emotionally. im definitely the person who keeps a cool head in situations and i definitely have the aqua moon ability to put logic first (im also air dom which probably helps). i had a rough childhood and i think being able to put a lid on my emotions has definitely protected me in some way.

sometimes it isn’t intentional and it’s just how im responding to a certain situation/person at that time. i try my best to stay present, but usually when its a subconscious thing i find it so difficult to care enough to actually be in the moment.

[animalflowers]

Aquarius moon here, with an air dominant chart. Detachment for me is a tool that I need because of my sensitivity. I’ve found with myself, and many other Aquarius placements, we are extremely sensitive. We pick up on *a lot.* There is a lot of information coming in consciously and subconsciously for us when dealing with other people and detachment is something that comes into play when individually we have reached our tipping point for that sensitivity and/or amount of information coming in that we can contain (this makes me think of the sign of Aquarius – the water bearer being a person holding a container). Other people don’t see all of that though, and while we are young I feel like we don’t really either. They just see the detachment and think we don’t have emotions or we are just being aloof because we don’t care about the situation anymore.

We are not an outwardly emotional bunch, but we feel *a lot.* I believe the reason so many of us need “alone time” to process things and why we struggle with emotions so much is because there is *a lot* there for us within an emotion. It’s not just the blunt feeling of an emotion, it’s also layers of information *about* the emotion, it’s meaning, how it connects to things, how it fits into the situation or doesn’t fit, how it will effect others, etc. You could call that rationalizing or intellectualizing, but none of that needs to be at the expense of feeling the emotion itself. I mean, it can be. You can stop at the intellectualizing point and never get beyond that. But I think that is apart of maturing as an Aquarius placement. You can hold both the energetic/intellectual information about something while also feeling the depths of the feeling at the same time. All of it is important. Feeling in itself holds tremendous information for us when we make it conscious.

But that is more about what “detachment” is for me. I “detach” because I need time for that. Or because I need time to handle another situation in my life, so I momentarily “detach” from this situation so I can take care of this other situation over here. But my level of caring doesn’t change.

The caveat to this is when I very consciously and intentionally “detach” from a person or situation. Probably because of my saturnian nature, I expect other people to handle their shit. If someone is not handling themselves well or taking responsibility for their own problems, I am going to “detach” from the situation or them until that changes. I have no issue with others coming to me and sharing their problems, being upset and emotional, being in tough spots, or generally having a hard time because we are all human and we all deal with lots of tough shit. But if someone is displaying very little self awareness or making no effort to help themselves or take *personal responsibility* for their well being or self care within those problems, I’m out. I am going to get extremely overwhelmed by that energy because of that sensitivity I was talking about earlier. I just don’t have the time or energy for that.

[bakedbombshell]

I’m ♏️♒️♒️ w ♏️venus and mercury. I’m constantly at war w myself a lot of the time because when people treat me poorly i do the detachment thing but there’s also a part of me that feels obsessive and can take a long time to let go at the same time. In the past this would make me very wishy washy and I would struggle to break up w people etc. I still struggle but thankfully I’ve learned to let the logical part hold the reins and not let my scorpio venus get as fixated on people who aren’t healthy for me.

[spiritual_addict]

this would be a really interesting topic to delve further into – and get an inside look from aquarius moons themselves – mainly because I was in a relationship with one and would like to know myself haha.

[tan_man_3]

In my situation, my aqua moon is conj Neptune and I daydream WAY too much. When I wanna detach I will, I don’t want to get bound into a situation that will endanger myself cause I’m always thinking of possible outcomes of every situation, logically.
(kinda like Dr. Strange lol)

And for detaching (whenever I do) it’s more of a subconscious effort I make, I’ll just play video games and ignore most of my friends cause I would not be in the right mental state to talk to them and I can get to a point where I only trust myself and my own logical decisions.

Aquarius however is the water bearer, and it’s rare for me to cry and I only do it alone if I can help it.
If I boil over tho, it’s ALL coming out fr (thanks for making those feelings worse Aries asc…)

With air placements (I also have a big ♊️ stellium) detaching is because we not only need to recharge after seeing people or situations we don’t like, but perhaps to **reanalyze**, cause I think before I laugh and cry 9 times out of 10.

[AstrologyProf]

Aquarians are interested in being unique and what makes other people unique, so they naturally seek out people who are different from them. It’s common for Aquarians to have friends who are very different from them, like only having friends of the opposite gender. I know an Aquarian who is white, but she attends a majority Black church.

Because they like to be the odd one out (or see themselves that way), they’re less personally affected by what other people go through.

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Hm, I don’t think detaching and staying present are possible at the same time. They’re quite literally antonyms. Only because someone is doing things means doesn’t they’re “present”, their thoughts could be far away and day dreaming. They maybe just don’t want to be seen as lazy. And only because someone is not doing things doesn’t mean they’re daydreaming, get what I mean? I am an aquarius moon, and I’ve never met another aquarius moon, I wish!! But my moon is conjunct Neptune, so I’m very dreamy and sensitive, kind of look at things through roses colored glasses. If things hurt too much I escape, because my emotions can be so overwhelming to the point of not wanting to be alive. I do drugs when life becomes too nasty, not just mine but if I see something depressing on the news I’ll be depressed about it for days. Others pain hurt me more than my own usually. I’ll run from reality in any way. But since Aquarius has the saturn influence, they cannot be useless, they just can’t. So as painfully as depressed as it get, I still go to work to pay bills and work on my art. In that moment everyone thinks I’m okay although I’m not. Usually during these times, instead of feeling the pain, I’m thinking about it on a loop in my head. Now it goes from my heart to my head, and while I’m serving someone’s food, the things i’m sad about is absorbing my thoughts and nobody can tell. Once I’m alone again it goes back to the heart.

When it comes to complete cold detachment, I don’t think that’s possible for me because Neptune is right on my moon.
I would love to hear from other aquarius moons as well….