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Discussion
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Please excuse me if anything I say sounds ignorant/etc. I’m just trying to get some advice based off of an experience I had yesterday.
For context, I’m a gay cis guy. I’m pretty small and lanky and I don’t think I could be seen as threatening in any way lol. I don’t have any romantic intentions at all when talking to women. I also have autism which messes with my social skills a lot and leads me to missing lots of cues I otherwise would’ve gotten. I have social anxiety and have been trying to work on it by coming out of my shell more often/talking to strangers. Not making excuses here, it’s just so you folks know where I’m coming from.
I was out riding/exploring the other day on my electric skateboard and I came across a little restricted access road under a bridge. The road actually connects to the highway (which the bridge serves) but no one except maintenance is allowed on it. So I’m sorta just sitting there enjoying the view from the side of the highway, when I notice two friendly looking women laughing and talking and taking pics of the sunset on the roadside multi use path. I was in a pretty good mood so I said, “pretty decent view, right?”
And one of them yelled back, “ew, I don’t want to talk to you, I’m taken” and they both walked off …
Yeah. Kind of shook me a bit since I didn’t know I was coming off that way, but after reading some of the posts on here I understand where she was coming from. I enjoy talking to women though! Which kinda sucks. You know, stereotypical gay guy with a bunch of his girl friends.
Do you folks think there’s some way I can approach a stranger without coming off as overly creepy, or should I just not? Or was this a one off thing? I’m a bit lost here.
And as always, fuck the patriarchy ☺️
edit: here’s the sunset in question lol https://imgur.com/a/AabXTYw