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Discussion
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This might be a lil long.
So, for a lil background, I’m 24F & being Wiccan is my life. I was raised in a partially Pagan & Buddhist household, went to a Unitarian Universalist church (google em, they ROCK. We had athiest, witches, Jewish folk, and Buddhists in our congregation!) and just all around had a life experience FAR away from the norm of Christianity. I consider myself very lucky in a way!
My partner is an athiest, he was raised Christian but through his adult life, left that faith because of his own beliefs and issues with Christianity. But his parents are devout Christians. I’m talking his dad tried to “court” him off to some girl he never met in his younger days.
His parents are divorced & tbh I only ever see his mom. I haven’t met his dad yet & I think it’s bc my partner is trying to protect me from that.
Regardless, his mom is a nice lady but super conservative & views things backwards. My partner’s sibling just came out as trans, and their mom has already deadnamed and misgendered her at the last dinner. I didnt correct her bc tbh I forgot his sisters deadname & had no idea who his mom was talking about.
I’m friends with my partner’s ex wife who is also an athiest & she warned me that his mother will say the meanest shit to you with a bat of eyelashes and a syrupy sweet smile. His mom also didn’t seem to WANT to believe that we were dating even after living together for 8 months. She sounded so shocked when she finally put it together & saw it on facebook (my partner wont add her so she looks at hus page lol) Her first question to him, “Well, does she honor you like she should?” I’m sorry, what?????? HONOR him???? What is this, the 1800s??? I had had dinner with her so many times, kissed my partner so many times, how did she not know? Makes me feel like she couldnt even consider that possiblity bc I’m not good enough for her son /eyeroll
So that brings me to my question. I have next to NO good experience with talking/interacting with people that devote Christian. They usually make me highly uncomfortable & I usually end up getting snippy bc people like that have such strange and irritating views. I dont want to be a people pleaser, as thats something I struggle with, but I also don’t want to be as aggressive as I normally am. Do you guys have any tips on how to engage politely with them while still standing my ground? I feel like it’s ingrained in me to hate Christianity, but that doesn’t mean they’re not people with feelings. I wont let her disrespect the LGBT or be racist, but how do I go about it in a way that I don’t chop her head off with my words? I feel like my first instinct is to be MEAN.
Thanks in advance & blessed be 🖤